(Closed) Need Advice from Waiting Girls About My Ring Options!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What should we do for my ring?
    Trade in the round stone and try to get an emerald cut that may not be the best quality or size : (6 votes)
    21 %
    Keep the big beautiful stone we have and buy a setting : (20 votes)
    69 %
    Neither, I have a suggestion below : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Can he afford a center stone without you trading in your round one, then you can put them both towards a higher quality emerald later, at say your 5 year?

    Otherwise….I’d say keep the round stone for now, and in a few years, have him upgrade you to your stone of choice. You definitely DON’T want to sacrifice quality in something like an emerald where the flaws show big-time. You can’t hide them with the faceting of other stones. Use you round, then, towards the stone you want. Or, save it for YOUR daughter or something like that. If you can afford to pretend like it’s not *really* there, that is

    Post # 4
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    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This one is kind of tricky for me.. On the one hand, you have a gorgeous, fairly generously sized round diamond, and it seems to be a shame to get rid of it. On the other hand, it’s not what you really want. I think it would make the most sense to trade it in, keep the quality level up but go down in size – that is if you would still be happy with a smaller diamond as long as it was emerald cut. If it were me, I would just keep the round stone and add a beautiful setting, but we have different tastes, and it seems like you really want the emerald cut. So do what makes you happiest! Maybe write out a more detailed pro/con list for you, and see which side really adds up.. even if the round wins, if you get the nervous feeling in the pit of your stomach, you know that you want to trade it 🙂

     

     

    Post # 5
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    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I’m on team buy a new setting. I think it might be nice to keep your grandmother’s stone, especially since it sounds like it’s such a nice one.

    Post # 6
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I totally understand where you are coming from. Rounds are pretty, so nobody attack me in an alley, but it is the LAST thing I wanted on my finger. If i were you, i’d be like, “i want an X” and I’d do everything in my power to do that, especially if it has no sentimental value. I was pretty adamant about a cushion or radiant though. Having something you don’t love will eat away at you over time. Just b/c it’s a nice beautiful stone doesn’t mean it’s perfect for you even if it’s bigger. You can always upgrade your emerald until it’s a big fatty 1.5, too, ya know =]. I’m sure your grandma would want you to be happy with your engagement ring =].

    Post # 9
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If you don’t have a problem letting your grandma’s ring go then I’d get the one you’d want.  Otherwise I would keep it and wear it for now and then when you guys can get your ring you want buy it then.

    Post # 10
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You and I have very similiar grandmas then. I had one who was all about the craziness of flash. My mom just inherited a handful of godawful mink coats that I’m just aghast at because I never want to have to deal with them! lol.

    Hmmm. I totally understand your conundrum. Have you exhausted all your searches? I mean, a decent quality 1.4 round can get you pretty far. Maybe you can sell it on the private market versus a jeweler? You could likely get more for it, especially if you have it appraised.

    I’m a flashy kinda girl, too, so I totally get you! I wouldn’t really want the 1/2 carat (no offense to anyone out there, if you knew me, you’d totally get it) so I’d probably settle for the sizeable diamond for now, and then upgrade to the quality and size emerald I really wanted in a couple of years, counting on the collateral of the round diamond. I guess it comes down to a) size or b) shape, two very important things. If I’d been given the choice between my cushion or a round twice as big…ooh it’s tough. I had this choice. Honestly, I had the option for a 1.97 round, but it was only 2K so i was sketchy about the quality which was later confirmed. I turned it down for the cushion, which is smaller. But I still lust after trading it up someday. I just keep telling myself that I am 23 and I will bide my time for an anniversary! Can you be happy with “not now, but in the future” sort of mentality? You can realistically tell yourself you can’t have you cake AND eat it, too. Would a setting with some gorgeous emeralds suffice for now? haha. Think aobut it this way–if your Fi is only buying the setting for now, he can do some serious saving for your DREAM emerald. Maybe in time for the wedding???? How sweet would that be, if he reworked your ring FOR the wedding? hmm? am i enticing you at all? lol

    Post # 11
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think that you don’t have enough information to make this decision. You need to actually take the round to a reputable jewelry, and see exactly what you can get for it and how big an emerald cut you can get. Then you will have a real choice: keep the 1.4 round and wait to trade up, or get a .75 (just throwing a number out there) emereld now. Maybe if you could even see them side by side. I think its just hard to make this decision when it sounds like you’re not sure what you would get if you trade it in. Maybe you could only get a .6ct emerald, but maybe you could get a 1ct! I think you really need to know what EXACTLY you’d be trading it in for.

    Post # 12
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    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    do you really have your heart set on an emerald cut? i had ALWAYS said that I wanted emerald or princess cut but when my FI got down on one knee and showed me my round brilliant cut diamond, i knew it was PERFECT

    Post # 15
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’d wait and trade up as well. What if you got a setting that was square and put the round in it to give you the look and then got a doozie blinger later on? (Don’t you love it when I make up words?!)

    Post # 16
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    74 posts
    Worker bee

    I actually had a friend in this situation…

    She had her grandmother’s 2 carat solitare engagement ring and had worn it in a 3 year long engagement that got broken off. She had never thought of it as her dream ring but wanted to keep the stone since while she wasn’t exactly attached it was her grandmothers.

    She has decided that while she would like and antique emerald ring as well that what she would do is have the gorgeous stone set into an antique setting closest to the emerald dream ring she wanted – this way she has a much bigger ring and hasn’t offended anyone in the family

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