(Closed) Need ADVICE: Groom’s Family Participation? (long-ish)

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What about a joint officiant?  Maybe someone from his family welcomes the guests and asks who gives the bride etc, and your Aunt does the vows and rings, and they both say you may kiss the bride?  A lot of couples choose readings during the ceremony, his family could handle those.  (They usually aren’t read by the officiant) Even if his family member has a different style from your aunt it could make the ceremony a nice blend of sweet sentimental and funny. Otherwise I think I would try to ask several of his family members to give toasts at the reception.  

Post # 4
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You could also have somebody in his family read a nice poem or give a very short story about the two of you. If you go the story route I’m sure somebody will have a funny one they’d love to share.

Are you doing any sort of unity ceremony? We’re having a non-denominational ceremony, but we are doing a unity candle because we like the idea of what it represents with the two families coming together in one couple. Each of our mothers will light our candles. Our officiant is going to say something about what the unity candle means and mention that our mothers lit them for us. You could do the same with other similar ceremonies (like sand). 

Post # 6
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

can his parents walk him down the aisle?/he walk them to their seats?

Post # 8
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I know you said casual, but are you having ushers? If your GMs aren’t the ushers but he has some male family that might want to be included, that’s a way.

I always have liked the ideas the PPs suggested – having someone do the “Welcome” and a reader/story person. 

Do your ILs know that your mom wants to cover Rehearsal Dinner and are they cool with that? I know my Father-In-Law would have been superbly happy, but others aren’t like that. Lol.

Also keep in mind that it just doesn’t always work out “evenly.” One of you may have more guests due to a larger family or have more people involved because you have more siblings or something. Darling Husband has a much larger extended family than I do, but I have more siblings, so that sort of evened us out, ya know?

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