(Closed) Need advice – if you had to change your date after deposits what did you go thru

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I haven’t ever gone through anything like this…but I think option #2 is the best..to reschedule and move on… to not take chances. I don’t think the mixup is your FI’s fault; from what you wrote it sounds like he loves you and is doing the best he can to fix things. If you love him, and you know that deep inside…then go for the later date πŸ™‚ Just my opinion!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Could option 4 be continue with the date as planned, and if the divorce isn’t finalized have it be a “commitment ceremony” and get legally married once the divorce is finalized?

Post # 5
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2385 posts
Buzzing bee

my frist thought was the same as @awakemysoul:‘s. You can go ahead and have the ceremony, and then quietly make it offical after his divorce is final. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@unixfairy:

Oh dear, I’m so sorry to hear this is happening to you. Wedding planning is stressful enough in and of itself without all the additional drama. *hugs* I changed my date and my vendors were accomodating. I could lose my venue deposit or reschedule and rollover my deposit to the new date. Thankfully it was available, as was our photographer. We had over $5k in deposits that we were able to salvage. Go with option 2, it will all work out. Talk to your vendors and let us know how it goes…

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not quite (or much) the same, but we found out our venue double booked us and we had to move our date to later in the summer.  All our vendors were really understanding and none penalized us at all, we also lucked out that everyone we booked was available to move to our new date.

I can’t remember for sure, but I think part of the reason our vendors were cool because it wasn’t something that was our fault.  Maybe if you approach the vendors that way, your lawyer scammed you and you just found out, etc., they will be willing just to reschedule without a financial penalty.   If they’re not able to do the new date you choose, you may lose your deposits.  Good luck to you, I’m sure it will all work out!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@unixfairy: Thanks for the update…I’m be sending good thoughts your way that your other vendors will come through for you.  September/October truly is summer here in Cali, and one of the reasons we chose Oct. for our wedding date.  A Napa honeymoon would be beautiful, and I’m curious about your dress. It will all work out for the best, keep your head up πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Been right where you are at for a different reason, his ex passed away just a month and a half before our original date.  Our vendors were very cooperative on moving the dates and there were no problems.  So I think as long as you call them as soon as possible you should have little problems.  Good luck.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@unixfairy:

I’m so glad it’s all working out for you. Shit happens sometimes, but you have a great attitude about it! I’m glad you were able to work past your initial hurt feelings and find a solution that works for everyone.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@unixfairy:

Yay for you! I’m so happy for you πŸ™‚ Your dress is gorgeous and if you love it your happiness will always be ‘in season’. Congrats, you will get through this, one day at a time.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

awwwh, month twin. our dress is gorgeous for october! everything will work out! πŸ™‚

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