Post # 1
I am completly hearbroken, and I need advice. Ok Here goes, My sister is leaving on Dec. 11 for basic training so that takes about 8 weeks, so she will graduate in Feb. and then leave for tech skool on Monday, (I WILL BE HAVING A SUNDAY WEDDING) My brother is leavin for basic training on 02/19 so there is no way he will be here for my wedding. I want both of them to be here and enjoy the day with me. I don’t know what to do. My wedding date is 03/10/2013 and I feel like moving up the date to 02/16/2012 when my sister will be in tech skool but she can come and go she has her weekends off, and before my brother leaves for his training. What do I do???????
Please help I’m crying as I write this, it’s not fair at all.
Post # 3
I’d bump the wedding up so they can be there. It’s not unfair, it’s just how life is sometimes.
Post # 4
@mariamorales: Moving the wedding may not be the easiest thing to do, but if its possible and your family is that important, I say do it! You know what you want to do deep inside and the important thing is to have the ones you love there that day!
Post # 5
Make the decision with your Fiance. I hope it all works out.
Post # 6
My sister got shipped to dessert storm when I had my first wedding. I wish I had waited for her return to get married. I’d move the wedding date if you can.
Post # 7
Yup, you’ll have to bump the wedding and all will be well! 🙂
Post # 8
Will bumping it up cause issues with vendors?
Post # 9
Bump the wedding if it’s possible, or have a small family only wedding so they can be there when you actually get married…then have a “wedding” and explain the situation to the officiant, if it’s not the same person–that way they understand why there’s no need to sign a certificate, etc. This is what one of my girlfriends did.
Post # 10
Hi, not to be a downer, but are you sure your sister can make it to your wedding?
I’m only asking because I was military and we did have the weekends off in school but it wasn’t a free-for-all. We had certain hours we could be away from the post each day – not the entire weekend – and if we were assigned duty that weekend our pass was pulled.
I’m sure you probably checked all that but I wanted to pip in just in case.
Another idea would be to push back your wedding until they’re out of basic and school and settled into their duty stations. That way you would be guaranteed to have them both there.
Post # 11
I MOVED MY WEDDING UP TO 02/15/2012 AND I AM AS HAPPY AS CAN BE, IT’S WEIRD HOW THINGS IN LIFE HAPPEN, I CHANGED THE DATE AND NOW WE ARE HAVING A FRIDAY WEDDING BOTH MY BROTHER AND SISTER WILL BE HERE, AND NOT TO MENTION IT’S A DAY AFTER OUR 4 YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF DATING, AND VALENTINE’S DAY. AHHHHHHH I CAN’T WAIT NOW I REALLY HAVE TO STEP UP WITH THE WEDDING PLANNING, AND GET EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL. THANK YOU BEES FOR HELPING ME OUT AND GIVING ME THE PUSH I NEEDED TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN THE WAY I NEEDED TO MAKE THEM HAPPEN
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Gables at Chadds Ford
@mariamorales: Yay! You seem super happy! Congratulations on getting married and being able to move the date!
Post # 13
Sounds like you’re more upset about your siblings not being there than actually moving your wedding date. Move it up or make it later, either or, it’s obviously very important to you that they be there!
Post # 14
Sorry, didn’t read the whole post. Don’t I feel sheepish! So glad you worked everything out and had a great wedding that you were happy with!
Post # 15
Move it up so the important people in your life can attend.