Post # 1
So here’s my problem. My fiancee left town today for a long weekend. Almost immediately after dropping him off at the airport, I went and tried on my wedding ring again.
I know, I shouldn’t snoop through his stuff, but I knew exactly where it was, it wasn’t like it was hidden or anything. And I know, I know, I shouldn’t wear it until AFTER I’m married, but it’s so pretty and sparkly, I just wanted to see it once more before the big day.
So here comes the problem: I put the ring on, admired it a little. It’s a beautiful designer pave diamond band, but it looked like one of the diamonds wasn’t sparkling the way the others were. When I looked closer, I realized one of the diamonds is missing.
I know exactly what happened: this ring had to be re-sized 3 times because the jewelers kept screwing it up (what one person said was a size 5, the next person measured at a 4.75- shouldn’t these sizes be standard?!) So it was always back and forth to be re-sized. Obviously something happened during that process.
The decision: My fiancee doesn’t know there’s a diamond missing. He’ll probably never even notice since it’s almost in the crease between my fingers. But I KNOW. Should I admit I tried it on again and tell him it’s missing? Or just keep quiet for now and pretend to notice it later?
This man knows me well- chances are he already knows I was going to try it on again. My main concern is that we have so much to do still in the next three months, this will just become one more thing to deal with. (And an expensive thing, at that)
Post # 3
I would go ahead and get it fixed ASAP, especially if it was done by the people who sized it in case they have some time limit on fixing things. Good luck!
Post # 4
If it was my FI, he would just think it was funny that I was trying it on. I’m guessing your FI would think the same. I would go ahead and tell him–he’ll get a good laugh and you guys can get the ring fixed in time.
Post # 5
I had a similiar situation.
Long story short, I would do what I did, and just bring it up in casual conversation that you would like to see it and put it on (maybe bc you saw something here on WeddingBee, and you just wanted to “see something”).. This shouldnt be an issue.. then since he will be right there you can BOTH notice the missing diamond at the same time…. Then he will know there is a problem, and go get it fixed for you.
If you have a warranty plan with your jewelry, there should not be any cost to you for this fix.
I realize this may be a bit sneaky, but maybe once youre married you can tell him, and you can laugh about it 😉
Post # 6
Tell him now. You may risk not being able to get it fixed or replaced later if you wait too long.
Post # 7
I am a little confused, are you talking about e-ring or wedding ring? I guess I’m just confused because I didn’t think wedding rings were surprises… so the whole snooping thing threw me off. Either way, I would tell him the diamond is missing. This is probably a time-related thing, so you don’t want to wait and then the jeweler blame it on something else. Your SO will get over it I’m sure 🙂
Post # 8
It’s the wedding ring. And you’re right, it isn’t really a surprise. I’ve already seen it. It’s just that after we bought it, he put it away because he knew if he left it out I would wear it. So it’s sort of off-limits until the wedding day, so I went snooping knowing exactly where I would find it.
Post # 9
None of the above. He’s gone for the weekend!?
Girl.. take it and get it fixed! Lol. Jared will do it for like $40, same day! 🙂 I had my e-ring stone put into a new setting.. and it took like 2 hours! And, they had to change the whole basket that holds the stone bc I needed a different shape.
And I’m sure if you have a warranty somewhere else.. they’ll be able to do it before he gets home as well!
Good luck!! 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone for the advice. I don’t know if there’s a warranty on it, we picked it out together, but he bought it so he has all the paperwork on it.
I told him tonight. (He’s flying home tomorrow.) He didn’t seem mad or at all surprised I tried it on, he just said “I guess it’s better we found it now rather than later.”
We are both a little concerned about the quality of the ring, however, that it’s already missing a stone and it hasn’t even been worn yet for more than 10 minutes. I think we will end up taking it back to the jewelers next week and either getting it fixed or maybe seeing if we should upgrade to something higher quality (although this wasn’t a cheap band to begin with!) so this doesn’t happen again.
Thanks for all the advice!
Post # 11
If it’s your wedding ring then you aren’t snooping–it’s YOUR ring! And you saw that a diamond is MISSING. That’s a big deal. Just tell him the truth. You went to admire and try on the ring and saw it had been messed up. Then get it fixed.
Edit: Just saw that he came home and you told him. See? That wasn’t hard.