Need advice on BM attire

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mexlover:  This is just personal preference- but I think a black dress is much more classy and something other girls might already have in their closet, or if not, something they can definitely wear again.

I had a similar issue with one of my bridesmaids. She wanted short dresses, but I wanted long (I think it just looks much more formal in photos).  I just told her that she could pick a long dress that she could shorten after the wedding.  She still sometimes makes comments (like the other day she goes, “My friend had the same dress I got, but the short verson! It was SO adorable!”) I just passively reply (“Oh cute!”) and then leave it there.  Remember, these are the photos you have to look at forever.  Pick what you want.  I think it’s very considerate of you to allow them to pick any black dress! 

Post # 4
10877 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Since you are set on having your maids in black dresses with red shoes, if your MOH does wear a red dress, I think she also should wear red shoes.  Obviously, in this scenario, it would be very important for the red color of her dress to match the red color of the shoes you choose, or vice versa.

Post # 5
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@mexlover:  Remember it’s your wedding. So in terms of attire, what you say goes. I say Red dress, black shoes is fine, but I also don’t think the MOH has to stand out that much. Her in a black dress and red shoes like everyone else should be fine too.

Post # 6
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@mexlover:  I would do what you want. if you invision all of them in a black dress and red heels then do that. If she wants to stand out do it with the flowers, sash or something else. I personally love the black dresses with red heels but no so much of a fan with the red dress and black heels. 

Post # 7
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mexlover: Definitely stick to your gut/vision of the wedding. If you want black dresses and red heels go with that. If you want your maid of honor to be a little different than your bridesmaids, maybe do a black dress, red heels and add a red belt to the dress? I guess it depends. 

I have 4 ladies in my wedding party that live in town and 2 that live out of town. The store I went to will order all the dresses once my girls submit their measurements and money and than will send the 2 out of town girls dresses to their nearest location of their stores. I decided that everyones gonna look the same because each and every girl means something to me and I have 3 maid of honors because I’ve stood as theirs in all 3 weddings. (I don’t like picking just 1 person…might have felt different if I were extremely close to 1 and close with the others). I decided that everyone will look the same for picture purposes. I have to look at them and keep them for the rest of my life so go with what you as the brides visions. Hope this helps 🙂 

Post # 8
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My preference would be all black dresses with red shoes. A red dress might get too busy? If your MOH wants to stand out, maybe a sparkly sash? DB has a lot of great black BM dresses with coordinating sashes to give her an extra “pop”

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