Post # 1
The FI and I came to a realization today. We DO NOT want a big white wedding AT ALL! Our bridesmaids and groomsmen really pushed us to that decision after all the crap they’ve been putting us through. We’re sick to death of the drama and we decided that the big wedding wouldn’t be for us, it would be for everyone else. We want our wedding to be about us and our marriage so we are now considering canceling wedding plans and eloping to the place we’ve always wanted to go, Alaska!
We already had every intention of going on a cruise there for our honeymoon, so why not pack along the dress and get married there too? We’re considering maybe getting married at a lodge or even on a glacier! I saw an amazing wedding on pinterest of a couple who took a helicopter with the officient and photographer and got married on a glacier. That is my dream right there and FI loves the idea as well!
So I could really use some advice from Bee’s who have either eloped or are planning to elope. How do we get started with planning this? Did you have a reception/party when you got back for family and friends? Can you give us some tips/advice? We’re planning to see a travel agent next week and get a cruise booked and hope maybe they could help with some ideas for the elopement as well. Any and all advice is welcome!
Post # 2
Lakeside003: Sounds wonderful.
Applications for marriage licenses can be downloaded from the Alaska Bureau of Vital Statistics website. Blood tests are not required in Alaska. A three day waiting period begins once the application is received.
The marriage must be solemnized by a minister, priest, rabbi, member of the Salvation Army or a marriage commissioner. But in Alaska, anyone (friend, family member, co-worker, U.S. resident or not) can perform a marriage ceremony one time only if they first obtain a marriage commissioner appointment from an Alaska court. Marriage Commissioner Information is available through the Alaska Court System.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2015 - Backyard
That sounds amazing! I love the idea of eloping. My advice is to not let anyone sway you out of guilt. If this is what you truly want, they will just have to understand. I would suggest having a thorough plan with FI before telling people and approaching it together. People will probably be against the idea at first, but all you can do is let them know that this is what YOU want. I love the idea of having a party when you get back. Hell, you can still have a bridal table with your “bridesmaids” if you still wish. This is your wedding and you can do whatever makes you happy. After all, everyone else will forget the little things anyway, it’s you that will have to live with this day for the rest of your life, so do what makes you happy! Good luck!
Post # 4
Lakeside003: Be careful with planning a wedding off a cruise ship. If for some reason the ship cannot dock, which does happen often especially with Alaskan cruises due to fog and other weather, then you will miss your own wedding and most non-cruiseline shore excursions are not refundable. Just something to consider when planning.
Good luck but just make sure you won’t regret eloping. There are a lot of posts on here where brides want a do over because they regret their original choice.
Post # 5
We will be eloping probably to Vegas, and are planning on having a reception type party for friends after the fact.
I have been in contact with a photographer there who gave a lot of great information on who I could contact to get what I wanted out of my elopement. Perhaps you could try talking to someone local, who can have recommendations
Post # 6
Would it be reasonable to have a super small ceremony with family only here in MN and have a small dinner cruise at the venue we had already chosen for a reception? We thought maybe then we wouldn’t have to loose our deposit and still have family involved, but on a much much smaller scale for just lunch and cake on the boat or something. We’re also wondering if it would be reasonable to bring my wedding dress and his tux and hire a photographer to take wedding photos of just us two in Alaska? Does that sound crazy?
Post # 8
Small ceremony and small dinner cruise sounds like a nice idea. You’ll still be able to include the most important people but still keep it intimate.
If you already have those plans, though, why would you need to take fancy wedding pictures in Alaska? You could take your official pictures at your actual events while still keeping it simple, and it will be more meaningful than recreating in Alaska. You’ll have more important stuff to do once you’re in Alaska ;). I’m sure you can still take your usual tourist pictures when you’re in Alaska anyway.
Post # 9
Lakeside003: although it’s not in Alaska, you should look into Banff National Park in Canada. It’s absolutely gorgeous and might be a better destination than Alaska. are you sure this is what you want? I remember a lot of your posts were all about your lakeside wedding and how excited you are for it. Don’t let your friends drama ruin your wedding for you.