Need advice on how to go about this…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Could you maybe word it like:

“We would love your presence at a reception to celebrate our marriage, Please join us after our private ceremony for some fun”

idk im not very good…..but its a start…..

Post # 5
5533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

“Please join us at a celebration of our marriage at….”

Post # 6
39 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would do separate invites….invites just for the ceremony then invites for the reception with an upbeat explanation!!

Post # 7
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I agree with PPs that have said seperate invites. I wouldn’t even mention where the ceremony is occurring in the reception only invites. Maybe just a “In celebration of their marriage, ___ and ___ request the honor of your presence at  ______” or something better worded 🙂

Post # 9
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did this. I was terrified of having a huge wedding, but I wanted to have a really great party. The only way we could validate this was by drawing the line: only family at the reception.

(I think once you start separating your friends out, it really becomes a popularity contest.)

We also separated it into two days – courthouse wedding + luncheon on a Thursday, and a big party for all our friends and family on Friday night. My friends were incredibly supportive and we heard no unkind words from anyone.

We made two invitations: #1 was an invite for family (included info about both events) and #2 was an invite for all our friends (just included info for the reception).

Post # 10
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lyssty20:  I did exactly this- everyone is invited to our “wedding” in the evening *110 pp* but we are having our real, legal ceremony, vow reading and ring exchange with a private lunch for 25 people (immediate family and VERY close friends) earlier in the day.  We are sending out invitations saying that “C** and T**, along with their families, invite you to celebrate their wedding with cocktails and hors d’oeuvres at ***”


In those who are invited to the ceremony earlier, I had a seperate insert printed for their invitations that says  “C*** and T***also invite you to their intimate, pop-up wedding ceremony, set to start at aproximately 1:30 on 10.12.2013. Lunch to follow.  See for more details”

And on that URL we also explain that this is a private event for very close friends and family only and to please not share the details.

I’m really happy with our decision. PM me if you have any other questions, it took me a long time to get the invites together.

Post # 11
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re doing something very similar.   Ceremony + dinner with immediate family (10 in total including us) on Wednesday.    Party with friends on Friday.    Our invite was an evite, so it was pretty casual and we were upfront that our ceremony was small and family only and that we wanted to have a fun time with our friends on Friday night.

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