- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Ok so my very best since the 5th grade is in a pickle and i need someone on the outside to help me see things clearly. She has been dating a guy for year and i haven’t met him because they live in CA and I am in CO. Everytime they get into a fight she comes to me and listen to all the crap he puts her through, she isn’t innocent but he takes things to a whole new level. He is a few years older then her and has an ex wife and a son, it was a shotgun wedding and they were finalizing their divorce when BF met him. Now a year later they are very much in love and very passionate but their fights are just as passionate and it blows up in their faces. After each of these fights he runs back to his ex, and sends her these lovey text messages. A few days ago they got into one of their biggest fights and broke up and then he left for an already planned trip to see his son. Now he is telling BF he wants her back and loves her and they are ment to be together but she found out before he told her this he tried to get back with ex and she turned him down. They’ve decided to wait till he gets back to make any decisions. But after hearing what he did I really wanna smack him across face and I was all for her cutting her loses but then I remembered I only hear the bad stuff so I made her tell me all the good stuff which turned into like 5 long paragraphs of good stuff and she seemed so happy when she was talking about him. I would be all for them taking a step back and working on thier relationship for a few months but he is in the military and may get sent to Japan in January, so in order to be together and work things out they need to get married by then. I just don’t know what to tell her and I hate to see her get hurt, especially if they end up together in Japan and another blow up happens and she’s all alone. But then again I don’t want to go against them being together because I know she really dose love him. sorry this is so long, i’m just so scared she’ll get hurt and needed to get that all out. Any advice is appreciated.