Post # 1
My FMIL forgot to add her neighbor to the list of people she wanted to invite. We would totally have been fine with her being invited as she has know my fiance since he was born.
So the neighbor asked FMIL the other day if she should be expecting and invitation as she has seen the invite tacked up on FMIL’s fridge. FMIL told her that she hadn’t invited her because we told her “she had to draw the line somewhere.”
This neighbor is well within the “line” we told her she couldn’t cross which was every casual friend she goes to church with and works with. She isn’t helping to pay at all and we can’t afford her extra 100 friends. FMIL just plain forgot to invite her neighbor and is blaming us (really really typical of her…)
Anyway aside from my general annoyance with FMIL at the moment we are hoping for some advice on how we can send an invite to the neighbor even though she knows it is belated and that she was forgotten… It is totally horrible and I feel really guilty for not having thought about her myself but thats the situation.
Post # 3
I think that you should just tell her the truth. Don’t pin the blame on FMIL or anything, just tell her that you’re really really sorry, between the other 100’s of guests to invite you overlooked her, but that you would really like for her to be there. Honesty is the best policy!
Post # 4
@ Frugal Bride: I totally agree we should be honest with her, it is just more difficult because FMIL flat told her she wasn’t invited…
Post # 5
I think you should tell the truth also, just say that you got the list from the FMIL and sent the invitiations and then realized after she had said something that she wasnt on the list, even though you would love to have her there.
Post # 6
I would include a handwritten note in the invitation that expresses your real desire for her to be there as well as your embarrassment and regret for the delay in the invitation, while totally obscuring who is to blame. Whose fault it is is not important.
I would just say that of course you want her to be there and you are so sorry and embarrassed for the delay, amongst all the names and addresses hers got lost, which you only discovered through your FMIL last week and it caught you totally by surprise because of course you want her there. She has been an important part of fiance’s life and you couldn’t imagine having the day without her and so please we really hope we will see you there.