- 6 years ago
Hello! I am new and stumbled across this site. I’m hoping some of you ladies can help me out. Here’s the situation:
My boyfriend is 24 and I’m 27. In many, many ways, he is mature beyond his years. He owns his own successful business, lives on his own, helps to raise his nephew, and had been through some events that have led him to grow up faster than most guys his age. He has many traits that I’ve been looking for, snd we share the same values, morals, sense of humor, and views on family. We have been dating about 8 months, and I realize that 8 months isn’t a very long time.
About a week ago, I brought up how I’d been thinking about the future and wondering where he saw our relationship going. I brought up starting to think about moving in together as the first step toward building our future. He informed me that while he loves me and is very happy, he is not in the place where he is even thinking about the future and won’t be ready to discuss it for a while. He didn’t say that he couldn’t see me in his future, simply that he can’t discuss something that he isn’t ready to think about.
After hearing this, I broke down and got emotional. I’m not looking for any definitive timeframe, but I would really like to know that our relationship is heading somewhere, even if it won’t get there for a few more years. Since he can’t even commit to that, I’m really concerned. Should I wait a little longer to see if he will start to warm up to the idea, or should I let him go in hopes if finding someone who is more ready for something serious? I really don’t want to lose such an amazing guy, but I’m also trying to prevent myself from getting more attached to someone who may not be ready for a number of years.