Need advice on social media and relationships

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do not want to continue to see her posts, I do not want her liking and commenting on my posts, if I am supposed to get over her..

There you go unfriend her or block her from all your posts and your feed.  She is playing games with you and it’s not fair.  She prob likes the fact that you like her and she is taking advantage of that.

Post # 4
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744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Mlr:  It sounds to me like she wants you around until she gets a better offer.  Which could explain why some days she wants you around and other days she completely ignores you.

If I were you I would delete her.  I do not think you have a future with her and you won’t be able to meet someone new if you are hung up on her.

Post # 5
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’d delete her…Or maybe just put her on limited profile.

Post # 6
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567 posts
Busy bee

@Mlr:  Alright I am going to be completely honest with you…

It looks like either

A.  She doesn’t know if yall are right for each other…. (which you can try to change her feelings of this, by playing hard to get, stay off facebook, don’t post anything on facebook, don’t get on to look at her stuff.  Don’t delete her or delete your facebook, it will make it look like you are sooo bummed about the whole situation)  Basically act like everything is cool and dandy in your life, but DO NOT contact her, no email, no text no nothing, basically act like she is dead to you… This will make her think about you and wonder what you are doing and I PROMISE she will eventually reach out to you and want to meet up if you play the mysterious guy, and noone knows what your up too)

B.  She might be looking for or thinking she could do better.. (You can also change the way she thinks on this stance(now it may not change the way she thinks of you forever, but it can change the way temporarily, by doing everything I said in point A. )  Also start making plans with your guy friends and even girlfriends…don’t wait around for her to call you or make plans with you and if she calls to MAKE plans with you tell her you would love to but, you have plans already on that night, or an event to attend… The key is making her realize that you are not going to just wait around and that YOU DON’t NEED HER, without saying ANY of that….

Think of Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Johnny Depp, I know these people are celebrities, but if they were into a girl, and the girl wasn’t sure about them, do you really think they would wait around for her.. NOPE, they would carry on and move on.  If it’s meant to be, it is meant to be and it will happen….

If you want the ball in your court and want her to want you, you have to act like you don’t need her by not contacting her, facebooking her or putting anything up where people can see what or where you are….

You want her to wonder..hmmm I wonder what he is up too…

I am not saying you can CHANGE the way she feels about you permantley, but YOU Can change the way she feels about your temporarily by using a little pyschology (being mysterious)   After all EVERYONE wants what they can’t have right?  Especially girls that are unsure of a guy they are seeing….

I have been studying the “games” that people play in relationships for years…and I am sure other bee’s will disagree with what I am telling you, but from an attractive girl’s stand point, that has felt about a guy how SHE (your girl) feels about you….I promise being unavailable WILL make her more into you 🙂

Hope this helps…NOW go on and make yourself mysterious…invisible…where did he go, she will say 🙂 🙂  Give me an update after you start doing this stuff.  I have given a lot of people advice like this and it HAS always worked:) Ah the power of the mind and wanting what you can’t have!  It works I tell you:)

 

 

 

Post # 7
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567 posts
Busy bee

@Mlr:  DO NOT unfriend or Block her, she will be like ” WOW, he is SOOOO INTO me, poor baby has to get off facebook bc of ME”

DO NOT Delete her or your facebook she will think you CARe about her way too much.  TRUST ME

Post # 8
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrideToBe14:  I agree with this, but what I disagree with is basing a relationship off a game.  She plays a game so he plays another game…

eh I couldn’t bother.

Post # 9
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Mlr:  Unless you want to continue to be jerked around, I’d walk away.  She sounds flaky, self-centered and selfish.  

This isn’t a “help me understand women” thing so much as “this is a person who wants to keep all their options open” thing.

If you take her crap, you can count on receiving much more.  If you are looking for someone for a serious relationship, this is not the girl.  

Contact her and tell her you wish her the well, but feel you each need to go your own way.  Then unfriend and move on.  

Post # 11
Member
567 posts
Busy bee

@Atalanta:  A lot of people play games in the very beginning of the relationship, it’s just the way human nature works… its annoying but its reality.  Now not everyone plays games, but most of the men I have dated, including the one I am with now, played games with me…

The they text you and you wait 10 mins before you text them back

or the you say your busy because you can’t say YES everytime they want to hang out…

Unfortunately all my girlfriends played games with their hubbys in the beginning to, but the wonderful thing is….The games STOP after like 6-8 months lol, and everyone is so much more real with each other 🙂

Post # 13
Member
567 posts
Busy bee

@Mlr:  If I was seeing a guy and then i told him I didn’t want to be with him maybe… and then he got off facebook i would TOTALLY think it was because he was too hurt to see my fbook page… Girls totally think like that… I would not defriend her or delete your page.

You are a cool, confident guy and she is just ONE girl…she’s not the ONLY girl for you, so don’t act like that 🙂  I have been giving relationship advice to my friends for 6 years and it has always worked, every time….just saying. -From someone enjoys reading books on relationships 

 

 

 

Post # 14
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4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrideToBe14:  The blocking from FB. ” WOW, he is SOOOO INTO me, poor baby has to get off facebook bc of ME”

No it means “I don’t want to deal with your immature twat anymore, leave me alone,”

Post # 16
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@BrideToBe14:  My now husband and I didn’t play games with each other.  I’m not saying we put all our cards on the table from the get go, but we established from the first date we weren’t seeing anyone else, that we really, really liked each other and went from there.  He called me every day.  I responded.  It was easy and uncomplicated.  It was the absense of games that told each of us this was something good valuable and real.  

Games are for children.  

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