Post # 1
Hi everyone, I know the standard advice on tipping 15-20% for vendors. However, some of my vendors are sort of special cases. Let me explain:
Minister: Not actually someone we know, but runs a wedding company where he charges amounts for different services. We have met him once and are paying him $300 for the ceremony. Usually you tip a minister because you are NOT paying them anything, do we tip this man on top of his $300 fee?
Hairstylist: Her charges add up ato $240 & I will be paying her $300 since she is a friend.
Makeup Artist: Owns her own salon, owns the company. Already charging individual fee, plus travel fees. During my trial I did not tip her just paid her rate since she owns the building, works alone and dictates pricing. Do I tip on the day of? How much?
DJ: Paying him $1200 for the night. Do people tip DJ’s??
Buffet Catering: Grat is already included in pricing (18%). Do I tip on top of this?
Please help me! I don’t want ot look like an idiot but I have no idea where to start 🙁
Post # 3
I wouldn’t tip any of them. It doesn’t sound necessary based on the info you’ve provided.
Post # 4
@Miss Leopard: The buffet pricing includes a grat, so I don’t think anything else is required. You’re already giving your hairstylist $60 extra, so that’s a good tip. I’ve heard you don’t have to tip MUAs if they own their business, but I’m going to anyway because mine is awesome. For the minister, I would probably make a donation to his religious institution.
I have no idea about the DJ as we aren’t having one.
Post # 5
Thanks guys. Anyone else have an opinion?
Post # 7
For the added cost from the caterer – is it specifically listed as a gratuity for the servers, or as service fee? Unless it specifically says it’s going to the servers, it’s not. The added service fee, which is usually about 18-20%, covers business expenses and overhead, and doesn’t actually go to the servers. We tipped our servers individually at the end of the night, in cash, so it ended up with them and there was no doubt.
I only tipped vendors who did not own their own business. For us, this was the flower delivery person, cake delivery person, waitstaff, and hair and MUA. Our DJ, photographer, cooridnator, etc all owned their own businesses so 100% of what we paid them went to them in some capacity.
I honestly have no idea on the minister, but I would lean towards no, mostly because he does own his own business already. We had a family member officiate so we didn’t run into that issue.
Post # 8
@Miss Leopard: A good rule of thumb for tipping- If they own the company, don’t tip. If they don’t own the company, they should be tipped. On the DJ and Minister if they own the business like the MUA does, then you don’t need to tip them. If they don’t own the business, a lot of the money you are paying them goes to the buisness you are hiring them from. A DJ who is working for someone else is not getting the $1200 that you are paying them. Most of that is going to the buissness they work for.
I would make sure the grat on your caters goes to the servers. If it does, I wouldn’t tip them individually. It is buffet, but a good server will keep it full seemlessly and make sure none of your guests go hungry.
Post # 9
The catering is done by a restaurant, not an actual catering company. The 18% grat is for the servers only.
Post # 10
@Miss Leopard: i wouldnt tip in this case. You’re covered by your current plans.
Post # 11
Commenting to follow.
At our wedding, the photographers own their own business. I feel funny not tipping them. Should I not be worried about this? How common is it to not tip those who own their business?
Post # 12
@Miss Leopard: I think you’re good at skipping all of vendors you mentioned, then!