Need Advice on Tipping

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who do I tip? PLEASE RED POST FIRST!
    Minister : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Makeup Artist : (2 votes)
    12 %
    Caterer : (1 votes)
    6 %
    None of them on top of their fee : (13 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4147 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wouldn’t tip any of them.  It doesn’t sound necessary based on the info you’ve provided.

    Post # 4
    Member
    643 posts
    Busy bee

    @Miss Leopard:  The buffet pricing includes a grat, so I don’t think anything else is required. You’re already giving your hairstylist $60 extra, so that’s a good tip. I’ve heard you don’t have to tip MUAs if they own their business, but I’m going to anyway because mine is awesome. For the minister, I would probably make a donation to his religious institution. 

    I have no idea about the DJ as we aren’t having one. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    11717 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    For the added cost from the caterer – is it specifically listed as a gratuity for the servers, or as service fee? Unless it specifically says it’s going to the servers, it’s not. The added service fee, which is usually about 18-20%, covers business expenses and overhead, and doesn’t actually go to the servers. We tipped our servers individually at the end of the night, in cash, so it ended up with them and there was no doubt.

    I only tipped vendors who did not own their own business.  For us, this was the flower delivery person, cake delivery person, waitstaff, and hair and MUA.  Our DJ, photographer, cooridnator, etc all owned their own businesses so 100% of what we paid them went to them in some capacity.

    I honestly have no idea on the minister, but I would lean towards no, mostly because he does own his own business already.  We had a family member officiate so we didn’t run into that issue.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Miss Leopard:    A good rule of thumb for tipping- If they own the company, don’t tip.  If they don’t own the company, they should be tipped.  On the DJ and Minister if they own the business like the MUA does, then you don’t need to tip them.  If they don’t own the business, a lot of the money you are paying them goes to the buisness you are hiring them from.  A DJ who is working for someone else is not getting the $1200 that you are paying them.  Most of that is going to the buissness they work for.

    I would make sure the grat on your caters goes to the servers.  If it does, I wouldn’t tip them individually.  It is buffet, but a good server will keep it full seemlessly and make sure none of your guests go hungry. 

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Miss Leopard: i wouldnt tip in this case. You’re covered by your current plans. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Commenting to follow.

    At our wedding, the photographers own their own business. I feel funny not tipping them. Should I not be worried about this? How common is it to not tip those who own their business?

    Post # 12
    Member
    11717 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Miss Leopard:  I think you’re good at skipping all of vendors you mentioned, then!

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