Need advice please (family drama… what else)

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I’m with your parents on this. You guys told them it was a GO and now he and his family are changing their minds. I’d be very annoyed with my FI, frankly. Even if his parents back out, why can’t your parents throw a party if they want to? He’s being ungracious.

Post # 3
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2654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I say ditch the at home reception and the drama.. go to a resto with your friends and whoever else can’t make it and pay for it yourselves in conjunction with your family

 

Post # 4
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

lilymarie23:  It is possible that your FI’s family is backing out because he doesn’t want the reception? I think the way that this happened was crappy, but I think you should take his feelings into consideration. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a rception, but maybe you guys should find a compromise somewhere.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

lilymarie23:  If your MIL is in rehab for drug addiction, she has far bigger concerns than your second wedding reception. It comes across as pretty inappropriate and self absorbed to be jacking someone up about contributing to a party when they are in the midst of a serious personal/medical crisis. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

lilymarie23:  I’m so siding with your ‘rents. Tons of people do both- it’s the only feasible way to include other people you love AND have an awesome DW. In fact, FI and I thought about this as an option if we had more $$ to spend on wedding. 

I really don’t understand what the big deal is on his end. Other people are paying for it, it’s a fun and wonderful way to include other people in your new marriage, and it gives you guys a chance to celebrate something awesome. 

They all sound so annoying. I’m not as nice as you. If it were me, I would tell FI to suck it up buttercup, ignore the inlaws, and give the parents carte blanche to plan what they wanted. 

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