Need Advice Regarding Friday Ceremony Time!

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Which scenario would you choose for a Friday wedding?
    Gorgeous cathedral at 4pm - 5mins away from reception : (13 votes)
    35 %
    Pretty church at 5:30pm - 15min drive to reception : (24 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 3
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    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @AdaLee:  Anybody who loves you enough to come to a 5:30 Friday wedding will also love you enough to come to a 4:00 Friday wedding. Either way they’re leaving work early. 

    Post # 4
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    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @AdaLee:  I’m having a Friday wedding as well! I would go with the cathedral. this is how FI and I look at it- not harsh and no hard feelings- yes, we don’t want to inconvenience our guests but honestly so many people work on Saturdays and Sundays too, and have other conflicts like kids sports, etc. Any day and time we picked would “inconvenience” a good portion of our guests. However, the people who love us and want to be at our wedding will not see it as an inconvenience. Others may RSVP no and that’s ok! We will have the people that really want to be there at our wedding!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Do you live in a city where there is traffic?  Where I live, rush hour starts around 3pm, and just gets heavier and heavier.  I’d have to leave work super early to be ready and on time, and that’s something that isn’t easy for me to do.  

    I understand why people do Friday weddings, but as a guest, I find them very inconvenient and unless it’s a very close friend, I usually decline because of the logistical headache of getting myself and DH there on time and dressed presentably.

    Post # 8
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    109 posts
    Blushing bee

    The question is what do you want to remember?  The beautiful cathedral with maybe less guests or the church with maybe more guests?

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @AdaLee:  I think you may have oversold the idea of the convenience of a 5:30 ceremony to yourself early in the planning stages, and now you can’t see it.

    Those are both very inconvenient times for people who work 9-5 weekday jobs to go to a wedding, so it’s not likely to make a huge difference in your attendence either way. Nobody is going to get home, ready, and get to the church in 30 minutes. Everyone who works 9-5 is going to have to take off early to attend either way.

    I say, go with the one that makes you happy. This is an arbitrary distinction you’re making, and I doubt it’s going to affect your guest list either way.

    Post # 13
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    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    @AdaLee:  I would go for the 5:30…. I got married on a Friday at 5:30. It didn’t inconvenience people too much from what they told me. 

    And honestly, no one’s really going to care or notice your ceremony setting that much. I don’t mean to sound harsh, I think that’s just how it is!!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    @AdaLee:  I know, it’s tough because you want a beautiful space but also want a convenient time. Ahhhh decisions, decisions!

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    We had a Friday wedding and started at 6- ceremony and reception and the same venue. Send out save the dates- it helps your guests plan ahead of time- we didn’t have any no shows specifically because it was a Friday.

    I would definitely do a first look for a Friday wedding. We had about half an hour of family photos after the ceremony, but our cocktail hour started right after the ceremony, so our guests weren’t further inconvenienced. I don’t think it’s considerate to have a gap when your guests have to take off work early.

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