Post # 1
Hello Bees! I know I can always count on you for advice and support. My sister and brother inlaw lost an amazing woman last night to a long battle with Cancer. We all knew it was coming but it’s just so hard to deal with. Sometimes life isn’t fair. Not only does my sister and BIL have to deal with the grieving and saddness, they also have two daughters- ages 7 and 4. This is perhaps what is most diificult for all of us. How do you tell two young girls that their grams is gone? I guess what I am really looking for is advice on how to be a good sister and aunt during this time, and also some prayers. Thanks bees!
Post # 3
@HisAngel: First of all I am sooo sorry for your loss. Cancer is unfortunately one of those things that touches the lives of so many. I have lost countless loved ones to cancer and it always hurts so much and leaves you with so many unaswered questions.
The best thing to do is just be there for them in anyway that they need. In my family it is pretty customary to cook a ton of meals that can be easily frozen and reheated later so that they are eating and keeping healthy. Lasagna’s and casseroles work great for this. As for the little girls, just being there to answer any of the questions they have honeslty. Its hard when trying to help a child understand because, well, lets face it, kids dont really have a filter. Their questions are blunt and to the point and honestly, I think so should your answers be. Its always hard to find the right words to say, but sometimes not saying nothing at all and just being that shoulder for them to cry on is the best way that you can be supprotive.
Again I am so sorry for your loss and you and your family will be in my thoughts.
Post # 4
@turkey22: Thank you so much…. I really don’t understand right now . Not sure how to act/think…anything. I hurt for them so badly and it breaks my heart to see them upset.
My sister and BIL are a wreck, understandably. I bought my nieces a couple books to read with them. As a teacher, I think these will be the best way for them to understand. I just am dreading seeing their little eyes well up with tears.
Thank you so much for your support.
Post # 5
@HisAngel: Its hard to try and be strong for them when you see those sad little faces full of hurt and confusion. I love the idea of books, that will be a great tool for them to use.