- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I’m at my wit’s end. No longer willing to compromise or deal with it.
I have tried very hard to be accomodating for my stepdaughter…I’m done.
Ever since my husband started getting her on the weekends, I am tearing my hair out. I seriously almost told him on several occasions to pack up his stuff, and her stuff, and get the hell out.
I have a huge problem with my life being dictated by a six year old. It started with her complaining about every last thing we eat…turns out, her mother lets her choose their food, and if that means McDonald’s seven nights a week, so be it. She cries and complains through every bite that she wants to go home.
Then, it became having to watch at least three Barbie movies a night. She “can’t eat” if she doesn’t watch a movie. Turns out, you guessed it, her mother lets her choose what they watch at home. And she has a TV in her room, too, so she can play AND watch TV, ALL DAY. My husband finally put a stop to that, and now she cries about having to come over because she can’t watch movies. She actually CHEERED when my husband said her mom was coming becuase she wanted to go home so she could watch movies. And, yes, she said that.
Now, if she acts up or does something wrong, we can’t say anything to her about it. She runs home crying to her mother that we’re being mean to her, and we never hear the end of it.
The last time she willingly came over was because my husband threw her a birthday party. She didn’t say thank you to anyone and barely acknowledged my husband when she left, because he got her a picture book and a coloring book and some colored pencils…and she wanted dolls. She is only pleasant if he buys her something or says he will. If he tells her he doesn’t have money for something, she tells him to get money from me for it. Because every time she goes somewhere with her mom, her mom buys her the things she asks for.
It’s insane. No matter how nice we are, it means nothing unless she gets her way one hundred percent, on everything. Her rudeness knows no bounds, she rolls her eyes when people talk to her, and has screamed that she doesn’t care when people are talking to her. We can’t go anywhere without her crying about wanting something or complaining that my husband said he would buy her a toy and didn’t.
No matter what good he does in changing her attitude, as soon as she goes home, it is back to square one. His mother has the same problems with her. She told my mother-in-law that she likes her other grandma more because her other grandma lets her choose what they eat (apparently, it runs in the family) and what they watch.
We’re also concerned about her future, her mother keeps her home from school to the point of almost being truant. She screamed and cried at us that she doesn’t want to be smart, she wants to be pretty. When we go places, her first question “are there any boys there?”
I don’t know what to do anymore.