Need advice to keep me from blowing up at FMIL today

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

First things first – DO NOT RUIN THE AUNT’S BDAY PARTY.  A big confrontation in front of family will cost your aunt a lovely day she has probably been looking forward to.

I get what you are saying and I agree that FMIL needs to be put in her place but today is not the time or place.  If you can stay later, after the party ends and aunt is gone, that could be an opportunity.

How would you feel if the family was having a lunch bday party for you and one of the members was coming with both barrels loaded to tell another family member what they thought of her in front of everyone.

This is not the right time/place, but I get why you are so mad.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Well, if you can do it away from the aunt and can use Grandma as an ally then have at it! 

As far as any hesitations you have about marrying him because of his crazy parents, can I make a suggestion?  Please consider pre-marital counseling.  It doesn’t sound like he inherited their crazy, but you guys WILL need a pre-planned, agreed upon strategy for how to  handle them during your marriage, possible future children, etc.  I am a huge proponent of premarital counseling and I think it could help you guys and really strengthen your marriage.

Soooo, can I get an update after lunch?  🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I’ll be waiting for an update!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Sounds like you guys handled her really well!

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