Need Advice:Bridesmaid just found out she's pregnant, wedding is late September.

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

NurseMandie:  What style of dress have you picked out for the bridesmaids? Can you post a picture or link to it? Personally i would let everyone else keep the dresses they ordered and pick something similar but more forgiving for your pregnant BM. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

NurseMandie:  Beautiful dress! Not sure if that’ll suit a woman 7 months pregant because of the banded waist. If it was empire, well, you know the drill… They might be able to sew in some panels but that might ruin the lovely gathering on the dress.

I think you should look for some alternatives now and have that chat with your BM sooner than later. It might help your stress level too.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

NurseMandie:  maybe have her order a dress a couple sizes up and order some extra fabric that a seamstress could add if extra room was needed, if she really wants to wear the same dress as the others.

I just read through one of the threads in the ‘related topics’ below  http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-might-be-a-very-pregnant-bridesmaidwhat-to-do/

one of the posters (first post on the second page of that thread) mentioned that she had heard David’s Bridal has a pregnancy belly that can help with sizing – maybe you can call your local store to see if that is available there – might help with sizing issues – and see what the consultant at the store recommends. 

Post # 6
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t think she will be able to wear the dress she ordered, it’s too fitted in the waist. To make that dress work she would probably have to order one a couple sizes larger to accommodate her tummy. 

Post # 8
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6021 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Get an extra bolt of cloth For the pregnant maid’s dress. A seamstress should be able to do whatever alterations needed, fairly quickly, with that cloth already on hand and if you end up not needing it, then you’re not out a ton of money. They’re not too pricey.

Post # 9
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1025 posts
Bumble bee

On the positive the dress is a stretch satin so there will be a little extra room, on the negative it’s going to be extremely difficult to find extra random stretch satin. The dress can be taken in, but not let out due to the fact there is zero seam allowance. There are approximately two inches between dress sizes at that store. Unfortunately with this dress you need to worry about baby belly and bust. Personally I would go up three dress sizes and that should fit fairly well ( no guarantees of course) and take it in from there. I say that because I’m in the same situation as your bm only the wedding is one month after I deliver, I’m normally a size four at that store and need minor alterations to take it in, well last week I ordered my bm dress in a size 8, and my bump barely fit, this was also a very flowey dress. Keep in mind a bm dress can be taken down two sizes without loosing integrity of the design. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - The Defoor Centre

Its funny that you are facing the same dilemma that I was facing just a few weeks ago but the only thing is my wedding is June 14 and one of my BM is pregnant now, just found out about 2 weeks ago.  Remind you that she was trying to get pregnant before my wedding but she could not so I as her if she could not get pregnant unless she can deliver b4 April.  So her and I came to a conclusion and decided that because she is in her feelings right now and alway feeling sick it is better that she drop out.  I was a little upset but I really did not need her making all the other girls feel like they were going to be walking on pins and needles around her.  I don’t need no ill feeling the day of my wedding. The good thing is I just found another BM that wears the same side shoes and dress that she does, what a blessing for me.  There are 6 BMs and GMs and I did not want 2 GMs to escort 1 BM.

For you, being a bride is already frustrating and to deal with extra unordinary bs is out of the question.  She is taking you through too much and the dress that you have picked out for your BM will not look good on any womon with a bulging belly pregnant or not.  When we pick BM dresses we have to be considerate of the sizes of our BM.  I know that giving birth is joy and a blessing that have been giving to us as women, but if i were going to be someone BM, i would not be trying to get pregnant during that time because I will be thinking of myself first wondering what will i be looking like in a form fitting dress and I would also be thing of my Bride. IJS

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

TheMunroes:  …Really? You would put off having a child for an entire year just so you could look thinner in a (usually kind of ugly) bridesmaid dress for one afternoon?

Post # 12
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - The Defoor Centre

Penang1885:  Yes, really i would. This is my choice, the same thing that looks good to me may not look good to you and walking down an aisle with a big oversize belly is not appealing to me.  I am looking at The View and just a moment ago they were criticising Kim K for the look she had on a red carpet event while pregnant.  Do not get me wrong, being pregnant is a beautiful thing.  Being pregnant and quest at a wedding, its okay being a pregnant BM is not good look for ME. IJS Freedom of speech.  And for the record, I am a size 6 no 0,2, or 4 so I am not thin and I am just right.

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