I’d say that as you’ve discovered often times too much emphasis is put on the relatively short period of time one is engaged for…
And not enough emphasis put on the other aspects of getting married.
Sure the Wedding is a BIG deal, but not enough people consider for starters the Honeymoon. Too many couples cram every dime into the Wedding for Family & Friends (which I get, cause in many ways it is a BIG deal this two families coming together to bless a NEW family)
BUT after the Vows, the Food, the Cake and the Dancing… at the end of the day…
There is just the 2 of you.
And that needs to be celebrated… by the two of you… ALONE
And that is what makes a Honeymoon a wonderful thing.
I am an Encore Bride… and so I knew how important the Honeymoon was to the foundation of the Marriage, so this time round, I put less emphasis on the BIG Pouffy White Wedding, for others… and more importance on US.
Consequently… we Eloped to a fabulous Destination to say our vows together on a Beach… and it was all part of a wonderful once in a lifetime trip, and Honeymoon. And it was FRICKIN AWESOME
Brides often talk about the “let down” or Blues they feel after the Wedding is over… your brain does wonder why the world has suddenly slowed down… lol
So I for one could not imagine not moving from whirlwind back to real life routine… without the natural “slow down” gap that is a Honeymoon.
It is such a wonderous thing to have such a special time alone with your Sweetie, even if you’ve spent years and years cohabitating prior to the marriage.
In the very least I encourage Bees to look at taking a Mini-Moon if they cannot afford a full blown Honeymoon after the Wedding… at the very least a few days to relax and rewind. Does a body (and a marriage) good IMO
Hope this helps,