(Closed) NEED ADVISE ON A BRIDESMAID!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh my goodness, I thought my wedding planning was stressful enough before I formally asked my girls to be in my bridal party. I asked my best friend of a few years to be my MOH-it was a natural choice above my two sisters, my fiances sister, and others because we are the closest. Her mother is making us our cake for free, as well as making a few other odds and ends (flower girls basket, my veil, ring bearers pillow). However…MOH is turning out to be a monster. I formally asked my last 3 girls two days ago to be in my wedding party. Not 20 minutes later, she is swarming them with her phone number and email and asking when they are free to watch movies and go to lunch together. I let it go, and figured if they felt overwhelmed or weirded out, they would be big girls and speak up. But later on when I was showing the girls the two dresses my fiance and I had picked out for them, MOH turned green and contradicted everything that I said. She told my girls to make accounts on Alfred Angelo and add dresses to their favorites because she “has like 14 she can’t wait to try on” and saying my dress choices were ugly and to be swept under the rug. UM, HELLO I’m right behind you and I’m pretty sure I’m the one getting married!? These two instances are not the only problems we’ve encountered, but just the most recent. She is constantly in need of attention, and will do anything to make sure it is on her. Including an extremely similar situation to the one you’re in right now with her not feeling included. I feel like we’re dealing with the same girl!!

I’m seriously considering firing her as MOH and reinstating her as a BM..but I don’t know. At this point I’ve been trying to tolerate her overbearing and pushy attitude because I do not want to make her mom angry or frustrated with me and then get stuck with no veil, no cake, no basket, and no pillow. But at this point, I’m willing to take the loss and deal with a little less stress!

I would seriously try to explain the situation to her parents, and tell her that she is being way immature and out of control. If they get upset with you, then I think it’s best to give her the boot and try to find another girl and DJ to fill the holes before time runs out. Hope this helps!! 

Post # 4
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

There are two issues here:

1.  Your BM making rude comments to you and your family.  You need to let her know how you feel, let her know that it hurts your feelings and give her examples of the things she has said and how it has made you feel.

2.  Your BM is obviously jealous of your other friends and the time you spend with them (her perception of the time you spend with them).  I would reach out to her via phone (no email or text or facebook) and try to talk to her in person.  Explain the situation with graduation and running into the other friend’s family and explain it wasn’t intentional to leave her out.

Post # 6
Member
10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Woohoo! Props to you for being brave and standing up! Everything will be much easier now without having to worry about this issue!

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