- 6 years ago
I have a former coworker that I sent a save teh date to. when we worked together we were pretty much acquantances and hung out with mutual friends from work once in awhile but not often. a lot of people didnt like her much because she comes off as very conceited and she thinks she always knows the right answers for everything. kind of a knowitall.
Well we both [editing for anonymity] had a big problem in our jobs and went through a lot together in fighting the employer. it eventually got sorted out with legal involvement and [sorry have to edit this out so i don’t get in trouble for violating the settlement terms] we both moved to different areas and havent really been in contact since then other then she’s my facebook friend, but I thought it would be a nice gesture to invite her to my wedding after all we went through.
Recentlly we both got notices that there was some unresolved fallout from our previous employer that we had to deal with. she’s been texting me constantly about it and sometimes comes across very rude in her texts. like when I can’t respond right away she messages me a couple more times saying “hello” it feels like she’s demanding an instant response from me. I have a job and I’m busy planning the wedding. I can’t just drop everything during the workday to respond to her daily texting about this. I also asked if she was going to take one of the options of how to deal with this fallout and she said “duh like I’d do that”. It just made me feel stupid and felt mean. Its stressing me out and I dont’ even want to invite her to the wedding anymore.
She has a lot of our mutual friends on her facebook friends list (even though a lot of them arent close with her) and she works in an area that there is a small chance we may move to in the next couple of years, so i don’t know if I should just invite her anyway or “lose” her invitation. I dont want her to attend the wedding and start talking about all of this previous work drama. Its the past and I want it to stay in the past. Shes the kind of person that thinks she’s always right and isn’t always tactful, so I’m scared to call her and talk to her. What should I do?