Post # 1
I’ve been trying to work on our wedding website, but I’m stuck at the how we met story.
We met playing an online game (something very very atypical for me, I only play one!). We met online in December 2007, I met him in person the first time in January 2008, we did the long distance thing until April 2008, and then we moved in together. Our first date was me making the 5 hour drive to see him, a pizza, and then I spend a week with him in his tiny apartment, so that’s not really a story for the grandparents either.
Add all this to the fact that he’s 10 years older than I am, and it’s a lot to swallow for some of our older relatives. My family that has met him LOVES him, but not very many people have had the opportunity to meet him yet.
So, anyway, I’m not sure whether I should put it all out there, or whether to edit some of it. The fact that our first meeting ended up being a weeklong stint in a studio apartment isn’t something I’m sure I want out there, though it’s what happened. I’m not embarassed by him at ALL, and he would be just fine to tell everyone the whole story, complete with extensive details. I just can’t decide whether I want everyone to know everything, and then field all of the questions and the sideways glances, or whether, I should omit some of the more scandalous aspects.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Maybe you just can say that you met online and that your first date was going out for pizza?
Post # 4
Well, think of it this way: you don’t have to put everything on your wedding website. You don’t have to put ANYTHING on it, really–whatever you want. So there’s no need to go into great detail if you don’t feel like it. A lot of people don’t really explore those parts of the website that much anyway, especially older people.
If it makes you feel any better, Fiance and I met under pretty much the most awful circumstances possible. We met through a mutual friend, who happened to be, you know, his girlfriend at the time. Their relationship was completely disintegrating, and I was not really involved with its disintegration, but still, very, very bad, and taking the scandalous to a whole new level (your story doesn’t sound bad to me at all, lol!). We don’t tend to tell family members this story. What we did with our wedding website for the “Our Story” part was to give a brief summary of our relationship and then say “our story-with recipes” since cooking and eating together is how we fell in love–we focused instead on highlighting something we share that we can share with others, which sums us up better anyway. I don’t think anyone cares that there’s no super-detailed narrative on there–frankly I don’t think most people are all that interested in us anyway. So maybe try avoiding a sort of linear re-telling of your story and focus on a cute aspect of your lives together instead!
Post # 5
I wasn’t going to put any “how we met” info on our webpage. I figure people just need the hotel info, shuttle info, directions, and registry, and that they probably don’t really care about the rest. Plus, I’m lazy.
Post # 6
We met when Fiance was my student (he was a businessman student)…so that’s a fun story to tell when my (now university) students ask how we met!!!
I agree with danadelphia – if you are worried about how your story will be received, keep it simple!
Post # 7
I always hate the “how we met” question… Because pretty much it’s my last engagement ending and me “jumping” into Jason’s arms (and home)… Now thats not how it ACTUALLY happened, there was alot more involved, but that’s who it looks from the outside. I’ll probably fore-go the “How we met” section (when we finally do get engaged). Although his family all knows the story and they accept me anyway and I’ve only met them a few times and his parent’s always tell me they love me… So it’s pretty sweet. I think they can see how happy Jason is (and how much I love him) so they don’t really care HOW we met or how our relationship started.
I say, sugar coat it for the older folks, and keep the details to a minimum.
Post # 8
I like that idea ginandtonic, that’s cute!
Truth be told, I wasn’t even going to make a website, (we’re having a small wedding, 30 people), but he really, really wants one, so I figured I should.
He’s an artist, maybe I can ask him to draw things, and have it be our story in pictures, like a comic strip. Now that I think about it, it would be a great way to introduce my family to his talents, and still put the bare bones out there.
Hey, you guys have great ideas!
Post # 9
I’ll probably skip the how-we-met too for two reasons. 1) We met on match.com which is both a short story and not a very interesting one. 2) everyone that is coming to the wedding already knows how we met (i think)
honestly i’d just skip it
Post # 10
OOOOH I think the comic strip idea sounds FANTASTIC! That sounds like a great solution to me!
Post # 11
Just tell the story of your first date! If anybody asks how you met, they’ll ask at your wedding and you can tell then.
Post # 12
I don’t like our story of how we met (I messaged him on myspace- GAG) so I just didn’t add it to our page. If people want to know, they’ll ask!
Post # 13
keep it simple. no need to air it all out!
Post # 14
eehhh….I think our meeting story is a LOT worse! It’s funny though and we laugh about it with our friends…but I really didn’t want my family to know all the gritty details!
I just shortened mine down to include ONLY the romantic, sweet things and left it at that!
I like the part that you met online and then drove 5 hours to meet eachother. YOu (obviously) knew it was right from the very beginning….and here you are now!
Post # 15
Although we just met at work, I’m leaving it out entirely!
Just info about the event will go on our site.
Post # 16
I was just trying to figure out how to tackle this one too. We met because he randomly IMed from America Online and we started talking and finally met. I never talked to people I don’t know online but for some reason I did with him. It has a happy ending, but I just hate the stigma of meeting online, like we were two desperate people who couldn’t meet anyone in real life, which is totally untrue, and I know its untrue for most people who meet online as well. It is just that very little people on the outside see it that way unfortunately. Usually we just tell people we met through mutual friends in a bar, which is probably a worse story to have, but people seem to accept it more, haha, anyway, I am thinking of just skipping that section altogether as well.