(Closed) Need bridesmaid advice – from a North American perspective!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

As long as you are clear about it from the get-go then you should be fine.  Let your local friends know that due to your budget you are only having a few maids and that your maids live too far away to help you out and you would love for them to help you with dress shopping.  They may decline and don’t be mad at them for doing so but I think asking them is the least you can do.  Now I wouldn’t have them try on the bridesmaid dresses, that would be weird since they are not in the bridal party.  You should try on the dresses yourself.

There is always hurt feelings involved when friends are not invited to be a part of the bridal party.  I have never been asked even by people I considered to be close friends and yes, it hurts.  Some friends will get over it and others will hold a grudge and you will have to deal with it to an extent.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If you let them know ahead of time your reasons for having a small bridal party, they will hopefully be understanding. I went wedding dress shopping with one of my best friends (she was one of my bridesmaids!) this weekend actually, and I’m not in her wedding party! She’s having a tiny destination wedding in Mexico, so she’s only having her sister stand up with her, which I 100% understand! I was still honored that she even ASKED me to go shopping with her and we had a blast.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, you’re totally fine! Phrase it like this: “Would you possibly want to go dress shopping with me? My bridesmaids are all in Sweden and I’d love to have someone to go with!”

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Could you go with your FI’s family members (mom, sister?) for moral support?

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