- 6 years ago
Big day today-my 1st anonymous post. 🙂
Situation is a little complicated. Basically my well intentioned SO bought a dud diamond and I’m not sure how to handle the issue. We decided to go the cushion route and quickly realized how complicated finding a quality cushion would be. At least I did. SO didn’t do much research. In the beginning we thought the most we could afford would be a half or .75ct of good quality and I would have been paying for the difference over budget and trust me I was Thrilled to be getting anything at all. Amazingly he found a cushion that’s well over a carat that he managed to find within his budget. I was blown away and honestly didn’t look at it too closely after we got engaged. We’re now married and I can see why it within budget. It’s a bad stone.
Now, he’s aware as he complained that another jeweler mentioned we didn’t get much of a deal for what we purchased and complained about the low appraisal. I look at this ring daily and it’s gotten to the point where I don’t even want to wear it and just want wear my plain wedding band so I don’t have to look at the stone. The cut is poor and it was cut too deep so it doesn’t sparkle. In the right light it will but who spends every day in jewelry store lighting? So it’s totally lifeless most of the day. I once asked how he felt about having it recut but he didnt want to do it due to the risk of destroying the stone and given the slight loss of carat weight that would result. And I think he took it as a blow to his pride. Though he didn’t get his money’s worth and was set up with a bad stone he still bought it for me and he’s proud of that. And I live him for it but at this point I just don’t love what was supposed to be symbol of ourengagement and he doesn’t have to wear it.
But I still want to exchange the stone at some point. But how do I go about it? When do I go about it? Do I wait a few years? Our accounts are now combined but I make double what he makes so I’d be the biggest financial backer of the purchase. I just don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him feel I don’t appreciate what he did. But I hate looking down at a pebble of a diamond every day. The gold has more brilliance than it does. I’m just lost and need the advice of some constructive bees. What would you do?
Im sorry if the spelling is poor. Doing this from my phone.