Need different thank you cards for shower?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well, to me it shows that one card was specifically for the wedding and the other was specifically for the shower. Though people should be able to tell what the card is for based on what you write in it. I feel like it’s personal preference. I personally prefer seperate cards. The shower actually has my name printed on the front, and the wedding has both my FH and mine name’s printed on the front of the card.

Post # 4
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1649 posts
Bumble bee

@milag64:  The most proper, most formal stationery to use for thank-you notes are the misleadingly-named “informal notes”: a small fold-over card with your formal name engraved on the outside front flap. You write the note on the inside under the front flap.  A very proper lady would use these for all thank-you notes, notes of condolence, notes of invitation, and just-because-I-feel-like-jotting-a-note notes. So, if you are a very proper formal lady, you will use the same note paper both your shower thank-yous, and for your wedding-gift thank-yous for gifts received before your wedding.

Since that is the “very proper” norm, then no, no-one can claim you are incorrect for using the same note-card for shower gifts as for wedding gifts.

However if you are changing your name when you marry, then obviously you will use a different informal note for any gifts received at or after your wedding: you will use new stationery engraved with your married name (which you of course would never use before your wedding!) A gift of new engraving plates and new stationery used to be a traditional family gift to the new bride. Given the cost of engraving plates, thrift is nowadays a good argument for just keeping the same name that matches any stationery you already own.

Post # 5
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@milag64:  I think that’s perfectly fine.  However, I found that writing thank you cards was a lot more fun when I had a mix of different cards to use.  THerefore I bought smallish packs of a lot of different cards (I didn’t match them to the wedding invites).  Keeping thank you card writing fun is important since you’ll need to do a lot of it!

Post # 6
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@aspasia475:  Wow, so interesting!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it is your preference. I hand made my shower thank you cards and made the wedding thank you cards with pictures from the wedding. A friend of mine used the same cards for both. As long as you send a thank you note, I don’t think anyone will care how you do it.

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