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I have been trying to post this request for the past couple of days, but for some reason, it appears that my post has not shown up.
I have the good fortune of having found two dresses that I really like. I realize now that I'll never have that "this is the one" moment, and I'm fully entrenched in analysis paralysis. I've been through the pros and cons of both of these over and over. I'm too close to the situation to be able to figure out what the right choice is.
My local friends are perfectly divided. Some are adamant about the first one, and others swear that the second is the only possible choice. I see the benefits and drawbacks of each.
I would greatly appreciate any opinions and/or suggestions that you may have. You can find them here:
http://pirateandapear.blogspot.com
I vote for the first one. I like how the fabric accentuates your waiste and is simple yet elegant. It seems to have a more relaxed fit on you compared to the second dress which appears to be stiffer. The first one you can defintely get some jewelry and a veil that would really make an ensemble... whereas the second one already has beading (?) so it would appear busy if you tried to even dress up the second one. Is one more comfortable than the other? Like- if you close your eyes when wearing one or the other- does one feel different?
Thank you, Sparkles for responding...
The first dress is the more comfortable of the two. It just zips up in the back and you're done. The second is a corset back. On the sample, we had to lace up the corset all the way to keep it in the right spot, so it was a little less comfortable. But having said that, this is the only strapless that I tried on where I was confident that it was going to stay where I put it!
I agree with your assessment about being able to dress things up with the first one, and not as much with the second. I did have a thought of lacing the corset on the second one with a light blue corset lace, but beyond that would keep things pretty simple.
I've also been trying to consider what I'm going to feel about looking at pictures of the two dresses in 20 years.
Sigh... Did you all have as much trouble picking a dress?
I like to first one, also. you look more relaxed in it, and I think that its cut is more flattering on you.
I agree with the comments above. Although I would normaly choose a dress that is the style of the second one, I love the first one on you. it just suits your figure very much, whereas you look almost uncomfortable in the second one. Good luck choosing one!
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Dress #1!!!
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The first one - totally. I like them both but the first one has such classic lines and yet it's got a little jazz going on with the ruching. And it looks awesome on you. Plus, it's simple enough that you could add something wild to the ensemble. You could do a huge flower/feather thing in your hair. You could do really wild and sparkly shoes. You could do a big fun veil. You could have a seamstress add crystals to the ruching. You could have a seamstress add feathers to it! (I'm feather-obsessed.)
Good luck! You've got 2 awesome dresses to choose from.
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Both are beautiful on you, but I definitely like the first one best! You are well endowed (lucky!), and the spaghetti straps really help proportion you beautifully. The ruching accentuates your small waist, and, like someone else mentioned, the simplicity of it leaves room for some accessorizing! Your confliction is totally understandable... both dresses are gorgeous!
I actually like the second one.....but I am not sure if its because the first one looks a little small on top? You have, to be blunt, boobs. I do too, and I know its hard....but the first dress REALLY shows them off. that being said, if you are actually ordering it in your size, it may help in that area. and therefore I might like the first one better!
I know, the boobs kill me. I don't want to feel self-concious about them. The problem is that dresses that de-emphasize the bust end up making my waist look bigger than it is.
The bust is why I originally felt so self conscious about strapless (and probably look more uncomfortable in the pictures!) That being said, if I chose the second one, I could probably get used to it so I wouldn't "bee" so uncomfortable on the day.
@Jorxa- great suggestions! You can check out a few posts down on the blog to see my crazy red boots.
Keep the great opinions coming. I'm really loving all the insight!
Well first of all I think you need to ask yourself if you want to feel more simple that day or more shiny? The first dress is simple elegance, while the other has some shimmer because of the detail.
I don't know you, but just from looking at the photos it just seems like you look more like you in dress #1. Oh and looking at some of your older posts, I LOVE the back of that dress. So beautiful! Just my 2 cents. =)
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I like the first one better. I think it is more flattering on you (you look beautiful in it). It is not overdone in beading but has nice details in the ruching. The cut of the top frames your face better. The v of the neckline creates a more vertical eye-line that slenderizes you. Gorgeous!
The first one. Definitely. The shirred fabric slederized your waist and the cut of the back is absolutely flattering and gorgeous!
I vote dress number 1! It looks so class on you, and is so flattering... really gives you an hour glass. For some reason 2 just looks like its ready to fall right off to me. I think the shirring is a lovlier detail than the sparkles... I know I don't know you, but for some reason it seems like it suites you better. Anyway, I think you look FANTASTIC in dress 1! But I'm sure you'll look amazing whatever you decide :)
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Well I guess I've agreed with the majority of you....#1! But I'll tell you, I can see the pros about the 2nd too! But, the first seems more comfortable, more elegant, and is quite flatering on you! Also, I prefer the cut of the back of the dress of the 1st one! Good luck!
Absolutely number 1, for all the reasons listed above. They both look good, but the first one looks much better.
I'm going to have to agree with everyone else that the first one is much more flattering on you. I love the simplicity of it and its definitely slimming and makes your figure look great. (Not that the second one doesn't, but I agree that if its the sparkle you are looking for you they could be added by a seamstress.) This is definitely a tough situation that you are in, I was also torn between two dresses. After going back to the store a second time and trying each one on again - I chose mine. I even look back now and realize that my face is all smiles in the dress I picked. Good luck! No matter which one you choose you'll be beautiful! 
You all are great!
I'm now off on a tanget thinking about a sparkly piece at the gathered right hip of the first dress.
So, I just spoke to my mom. She likes the second dress, but my dad likes the first. My sister threatens (not seriously) that she'll disown me if I pick the first... she really likes the second :)
All of this means that I'm going to take two other girlfriends down to the store to try them both on again next week.
The people who have seen them both in person have preferred the second.
And I'm working out like crazy to see if that makes a difference with my decision. Wish there was an easy way to work out your boobs!
I'll keep you posted!
honestly, if you are that equally torn...you should go with the one that is more affordable, since there is such a big price difference...I'm sure you have other places you could spend $1k ;)
If that doesn't sound appealing, try accessorizing both before deciding.
wow, i definitely liked the 2nd on you best! love the first dress but liked the second on you better. reminds me of my own struggles with deciding!!!! pick the one that you find yourself leaning more towards. i finally picked mine after i realized that it was the one that i compared all the other ones i liked to. don't forget that this is YOUR day and your pictures, your memories, your style, your wedding. girl, pick the one you would have picked before you opened the "votes"!!!!! congrats on your engagement!
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I haven't read any comments yet, because I didn't want to taint my initial reaction! I think you look far, far more comfortable and natural in the first dress. If you like the sparkle of the second dress (and who wouldn't!) maybe there's a subtle way to accessorize. Personally, I'd rather not have to think about my dress at all on the big day (besides how amazing I look of course!).
I love the first dress. You look fab :)
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I already commented on your blog, but reading through this thread made me remember something about my own dress experience - when I put it up for a vote, everyone chose the dress that was secretly my second-favorite. I'm glad I went with my gut, though. When I look back on the dress that my peeps were pushing me toward, I realize that I would have felt uncomfortable in it. Maybe just go try them on again, sleep on it, and think about which one makes you feel the most fabulous.
Good luck!
I liked the first one best. It fits you very well, and looks much more comfortable, and that will make a big difference. I thought that the top and the bottom of the second one were too different (mostly lace, and then mostly smooth). But that is only my personal taste. They are both beautiful.
Also, pay attention to the one you show people first. That is probably the one you want the most. Or flip a coin, and if you want a reflip than you know which one you want. :)
they're both beautiful, but you look *so* much more comfortable in the first dress. i would definitely go with that one.
Definitely dress #1. That first picture of you in that dress is stunning - it's flattering and you look at ease, it in, where I think you look sort of "sucked in" and uncomfortable in the second dress.
But more importantly, don't let anyone try to coerce into getting the dress that THEY think is better! Go with your gut... deep down, I bet you have a preference of one over the other, but you just haven't been able to verbalize it yet. Make a list - one column all of the pros of dress one, and then of all of the pros of dress 2. Only look at the pros of each, and don't feel compelled to make them equal. This might help you realize which one you like the best.
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I like the 2nd one better (the style of the dress), but I think they both look great on you, so I would go for the one that is $1000 less. I don't think you can look at them and say "Wow this one is more expensive." By the way, which is the more expensive one???
I agree with the comment that if you like both equally, it might make sense to choose the least expensive one. That will give you more $ to play with and to spend on other items. However, if I were picking, I would agree that both are gorgeous and flattering, but that you look more comfortable in dress #1. Either way, you'll make a great choice! Good luck!
I vote for NUMBER ONE.
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My personal pick is #1 - I really think it looks amazing on you and #2 to me is just ok. But the bigger reason is that you look so much more comfortable and happy in it!
I also vote for #1. You look amazing in it! I may be a bit biased though since I was an Augusta Jones bride.
I don't know if this will make sense, but here goes...
When I look at the pictures of Dress #2, I think, "That is a beautiful dress!!!" BUT, when I look at the pictures of Dress #1, I think, "That is a beautiful bride!!!" For me, Dress #1 pulls the whole package together, so I'd pick that one.
Still, it's important to pick the one you are comfortable with! If everyone who's seen it in person likes dress #2 the best, then maybe the pictures aren't doing it justice...
Something else to think about...
The second dress has a lot of beading, which could accidently be mesed up some when it gets cleaned. By mess up I mean you may be missing a few beads, then you would have to sew some other ones on or live with missing a few beads.
The first one is very simple and you wouldnt have that problem :)
p.s. I like the first one the best. I think if you like the sparkle of the second one you can still achieve that look with the first with the right accessories!
Thank you all for the thoughtful advice. I will update after I take two of my good girlfriends to try on and get their opinions.
I'll be honest, I'm completely split... I was originally sure I was going to choose Augusta Jones, but after trying on Mori Lee I felt equally about both.
Le sigh...
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