Need elopement advice!

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
1785 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

First of all 3 months is more than enough time to plan a beautiful elopment. You can still get a cute dress, bring along your favorite wine, do you know anyone there to be the officiant? 

I personally have never been to forks but I have always loved the ocean and I personally think there is nothing more romantic than a long walk down the coast with a picnic basket. If it were me I would find 1. an officiant, 2. a cute dress and 3. a photographer (even if just to take pictures of the actual exchanging of vows and a few cute shots of you guys on the beach or in the woods aftewards whereever you will be. you will want pictures, I can promise you that. 

Post # 3
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I eloped almost two years ago. What advice are you looking for specifically?

Post # 4
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MoniePennie:  3 months is PLENTY of time to plan a gorgeous elopement ceremony! DH and I decided to scrap our wedding 3 months before the day, and planned our elopement in about 3 weeks.There were so many reasons I was so happy that we did elope, I can’t even begin to list them all.

One thing I will say, MAKE SURE YOU GET A GOOD PHOTOGRAPHER! We actually wound up only spending $250 on our photographer who normally charged $2k because we only needed her for an hour. In that time we got getting ready photos done, our ceremony, as well as couple’s portraits. I also still paid $175 for my hair and makeup. You only get married once, and I wanted to still feel like a Bride and get pampered!

One tradition I wanted to hold onto was DH not seeing me before the ceremony in my dress. I got my hair and makeup done in Portland, and then we drove the two and a half hours to Lincoln City, so he did see me in normal clothes with my hair and makeup done. Once we got to the hotel, the manager actually let me use a separate room from the one we had reserved so I could get ready away from him. My officiant helped me into my dress and our photographer came with me for a little bit.

When she was done getting photos with me, she went down to our room to get pictures of DH getting ready and also of the cake and bouquet.

At that point, our photographer called me to tell me that her and DH were heading to the beach for the ceremony. Once DH was in place for “first look” photos, she called me and said to go ahead and come down. We did our first look on some stairs down to the beach right above where we said our vows, and walked down together, hand in hand. The actual ceremony lasted about 10 minutes, and then we headed back to the room to sign our marriage license, and then we headed back to the beach for photos! I still wore the dress I wanted to wear, I didn’t listen to the “get a cute sundress” advice so many people give. I had a pure silk Paloma Blanca gown that was super formal, and I felt amazing. DH still wore his suit.

One thing I would also recommend is elopement announcements. I designed ours and then as we were leaving town on Friday morning, we put them in the mail box. We had a two day honeymoon on the coast, so when we got home on Monday, everyone had received the announcements. It was perfect timing!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  PacificMrs.
Post # 5
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I don’t have any advice, but I just love that you are getting married in Forks.  <— Twilight nerd here.

Post # 7
7 posts

We have planned our elopement in 10 weeks. Our planning process has gone a little something along these lines….

  • Found where we wanted to get married
  • Found someone to marry us
  • Organised the boat (getting married by a loch)
  • Found an awesome photographer Booked somewhere to stay
  • Organised the forms and made a meeting with the registrar for a few days before the wedding

All that was done in 2 days then

  • Looked for dresses
  • Went to see some dresses
  • Found what I wanted and got someone to make it for me
  • Organised hair and make up
  • Organised our witnesses
  • Booked restaurant for the night
  • Organised the flowers
  • Organised hubby to be and son’s kilts
  • Ordered my shoes
  • Got my underwear etc

That all took about a week to 10 days to get all that sorted and that was only because of the dress.

We then booked our reception/party for a local hotel for 5 weeks after the wedding and organised the invites/cake/DJ all in a couple of days as well.

I have friends getting married in 2015 and have been planning it for 2 1/2 years…….

No need for all the extra stress…..

Hope you find what you are looking for…. xx


Post # 8
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

MoniePennie:  We planned our vacation elopement in 15 days!  In that time we had to get H’s ring, get him a suit/shirt, finalize vows with officiant, pick out my bouquet, rent the lodge rooms, find and book a photographer, plan an 11 day road trip.  On the drive up to Canada, H and I discussed if we wanted to do a first look or not (we did do one).  Also, how to walk into the ceremony together.  He is of Swedish ancestry and Swedes always walk in arm and arm since they both enter the marriage together.  That is what we did.  Decided in the car!

We put more thought into where we were staying/doing for the 11 days rather than the actual wedding day (I guess that part was easy).

Our wedding day involved a 5 mile hike in the mountains.  I cancelled my hair appt. so I could go hiking instead (so that means I did my own hair).

We got ready in our hotel room.

Photographer came to get some getting ready/first look shots.

Ceremony, vollowed by 2 hours of photography around a beauitful mountain lake and a canoe (see my avatar).

Exisite three course dinner with champange.  Personal wedding cake was also at the end.


Post # 10
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I eloped almost five months ago And DH and I agree it was the best decision ever. Welcome to the elopement club! Lol. Lemme tell you about being a part of the elopement club. well…that would almost be like thread hacking. Okokok, enthusiasm aside here goes:

1. Yep, the photographer is a total must. We got charged around 850 and we couldn’t be happier with the pictures! Don’t skimp on your pictures bc it really will be what you share on your announcements, with family and friends, etc.

2. Don’t skimp on hair and makeup or your dress either! Because it IS an elopement feel free to wear whatever you want and do whatever you want (enter together, separately, music, no music…) but make sure you feel “bride-y” and like (duh) you’re getting married.

3. Sit down with your FI and ask him what elements of a traditional/conventional wedding are important to the two of you. For example, for me it was the dress, rings, cake, a nondenominational Christian ceremony and I wanted a unity ceremony of some kind. We ended up doing a unity sand ritual that I absolutely loved.  then include those elements into your ceremony in some way.

4. I hired an elopement planner (yep they exist) so if you want one just google Forks, WA elopement packages or something like that. The planner was responsible for finding a venue that suited our preferences (they give you a questionnaire like “what are you looking for? Check all that apply. Wooded areas/ water views / etc), making sure we had a permit for that venue in that day (in some places even public beaches or places need permits…), that no arts and crafts fair or whatever would also be at that place on that day, providing the officiant, providing a hair and makeup artist, a bouquet and boutonnière, and if you wanted a photographer then a photographer too. We choose a different photographer cuz the pics on the elopement planner’s website weren’t really “professional-looking”.  

5. I’d also echo PacificMrs (dunno how to add her to the thread sorry) and make sure you make elopement announcements. In my experience there will be lots of people who won’t understand why you eloped, others who will think that you got married but didn’t invite them, feel slighted, would’ve wanted to share your day…etc. Hence, elopement announcements. You go to whatever site you like (I did mine on wedding paper divas something something), choose the ones you like and then make sure it says we ELOPED or you go into the wedding announcement ones and modify them so it says something like bride’s name and groom’s name got married in a PRIVATE ceremony…so everyone understands that a) you’re not asking for a gift, b) it’s not that you didn’t invite THAT particular person, c) it’s a shock to everyone!

6. Tell the people you’re renting the cabin from that you’re eloping there! Honeymoon bonuses are always nice. 😉 

feel free to PM me or keep posting on here so we can support you!

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