- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’ve posted a few times about my wanting a timeline, but I haven’t actually asked SO for one yet – we’ve had some discussions that quieted that voice in my head of “when? When! Let’s do this!” so I didn’t feel the need to push it at the time.
I should start of with saying that 1) we haven’t been dating a very long time like a lot of waiting bees (15 months) but we are 30 years old, and we want 2 children 2) We have had discussions that we will get married, and I have no doubts that he wants to marry me, we’ve discussed buying a house in the next year or so, so that’s not the issue.
The reason that little voice came back is because this weekend we visited family, and my mom was being not so subtle and flat out whining “when are you guys getting married? I want grandchildren” as she does (and has done to me for the past oh so many years….not in a malicious way, kind of in a joking way, but still annoying). Well SO responded at the time to her “your guess is as good as mine” and then hugged me (?). I didn’t say anything at the time to him (didn’t want to have that convo in fronot of Mom) but just told her that she needed to quit asking. At his family’s house, his brother made a comment that there needs to be a wedding, he’s not getting any younger (as a joke, he’s 24).
Anyway, tonight we are having dinner, just the 2 of us (a lot of our dates involve other people so it’s a good opportunity), and I’m thinking of bringing a timeline up – just in a sense of “We’ve mentioned marriage, kids, etc…..when do you see those things happening? Like, at what age, or in what year? I am a planner, and I’d like to have a general plan for the next 5 years or so – especially since there are so many really big life changing things coming up -we make plans and God laughs sometimes, so it doesn’t need to be set in stone, but just your thoughts on when we will be taking the next steps”.
What do ya’ll think? I need some encouragement, because everytime I’ve tried to bring this topic up I freeze, I chicken out – I have some issues re: trying not to push too hard (which has nothing to do with SO, I’ve been like this with all my past relationships and I’m working on it).