- 5 years ago
So long story short… My boyfriend of 2 years originally proposed this past March, and while I originally at first said yes, 2 days later I told him I wasn’t ready. Now I’m wondering if I’m ready??
Long story long… We had been bar hopping that day and decided to go window shopping for rings, bad idea I know. We ended up buying one and he proposed as soon as we got home (next to our kitchen trashcan, didn’t say any nice words, just not what I had in mind). The next day we went out to brunch and he said he was going to see a game at a bar with a friend, no big deal, except he didn’t come home until 10 at night! The day after we got engaged! And this was totally out of character for him so I knew something was up. That gave me a lot of thinking time to myself and I realized I wasn’t 100% ready to be engaged. While I love him I’m only 23 and still have lot lot of life left so I’m in no hurry to be engaged if I’m not positive im ready. He was devastated when I told him I wasn’t ready and pretty much spent the next 2 days in hibernation. Since then we’ve worked through a lot of the things that have kept me wondering about him and were in a really good place right now.
So my question is, I think I’m ready but is it too soon?! I’m worried a lot about how our friends and family will think, I don’t want to be perceived as someone who is flaky and I know I shouldn’t let them effect my decision, but they are a factor. Also, how do I bring this up to him? I’m afraid if I don’t say anything years will go by before he tries to ask again thinking hell just get shot down.
Any advice Bees???