Need friendship advice please

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would stop inviting her! I don’t know who took a tinkle in her Cornflakes, but she sounds like no fun!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@BakerBee16:  Well if she can be that blunt and sound like a bitch, so can you. If just tell her to stop being an insufferable bitch And that we are all sick of her whining and carrying on. If she hates us all that bad, then, She can damn well stay home.

 

Howeved, I’m a very blunt person and I don’t beat around the bush. I think you just mentioning that she can be rude will get you nowhere. Be blunt, get to the issue and then leave it up to her to see what she wants to do next. I’ve had a friend like this, EXACTLEY like this actually and I told her she was a bitch and no one could stand to be around her. She shaped up real quick and is still a brat but not that bad.

 

Good luck!!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@BakerBee16:  Yea, that difficult and your FI is probably right as to why she acts like that. Next time she’s being a jerk, just be a jerk right back. Honestly, you’ll feel bad but this chick needs to know that unless she wants zero friends, she’s got to learn how to be socially acceptable and not be a huge bitch. When you treat her like she treats you, she’s either going to go ape shit mad on you and not be your friend anymore or she’ll realize how mean she is. Either way, I honestly think you couldn’t lose at this point.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Do you want to continue being friends with her? I think this is the time to decide.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

It sounds like she’s depressed, or having some anxiety issues. Have you tried reaching out to her, or hanging out with her with just the two of you? Maybe she doesn’t like your other friends. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I have a friend just like that! In the sense that she’s an only child and completely selfish. She’s my best friend actually, we were neighbors growing up and so I’ve basically known her my entire life. That’s pretty much the only reason we’ve stayed close, I think. There’s so much history it’s like she’s my sister more than anything. Anyway, there have been times where I’ve just been forced to distance myself from her. She is completely oblivious to her selfishness and inconsideration. Her mom actually told me, “This is who she is and she isn’t going to change. Either accept her or don’t.” And that was pretty much the best advice I could’ve been given. I’ve chosen to accept her but to be a little less involved in her life. Our relationship has improved since she’s had a baby. She’s had to force herself to be more selfless, although she still struggles.

So basically I would offer you the same advice. Accept her or don’t. You don’t HAVE to be her friend. It sounds like nobody in your group would mind cutting her loose. Just don’t expect her to change. You’ll get nowhere with expectations like that.

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