Post # 1
Hi full figured bees, I need some help here. The situation: my FI and I have decided to have a small wedding party, one MOH and one BM (he’ll have a BM and a groomsman). My one BM is on the heavier side, while the other girl and I are more on the S/M side. Because we all grew up in SoCal near the beach, my BM has always been very uncomfortable with her body. I know that she gets down on herself for her weight, but I think she is gorgeous and I want her to feel beautiful on my wedding day.
I’m already letting the girls pick their own dresses and shoes, but I’m sort of stuck on what to get her as a gift. I’m getting both girls coach wristlets and putting a mini emergency kit inside, making them earrings, and I’m getting my MOH a Victoria Secret’s gift card, but should I get one for my BM there as well? Is there something else that would be better? Is there something I should put in her emergency kit? What else can I do to make her feel her best? Any help, tips, or suggestions is much appreciated!
Post # 3
I’m hearing that you want to make your BM feel good, but I’m a little unsure what her size has to do with the gift you get her. If you’re just thinking about her as a person and what her likes and interests are, what kind of gift would you normally get her for a different occasion, such as her birthday?
Post # 4
@housebee: I’m not sure how heavy she is, but Torrid has a nice selection of plus-size clothing (and lingerie). I’m a plus-size bee, and I HATE Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, The Avenue, etc. You could also get her a gift card to Macy’s. She’s bound to find something there that she likes. Hope this helps.
Post # 5
I don’t understand how her being a curvy girl has anything to do with what you give her…in fact, if you do something different because of it, I would think that might make her feel more conspicous…do something that works for them all and call it good.
Post # 6
@Nona99: I just don’t want to get her a gift certificate to a store she can’t shop at. The other thing I thought of was getting them was a gift card to our favorite bakery/restaurant, but then I don’t know if that’s such a good thing if she’s trying to watch her weight. I just really don’t want to slip up and make her feel bad.
@SweetDeeReynolds: We would always take each other out for our birthdays, maybe get each other a card (we’re not very girly girls). Since I don’t live near them, the next best thing I could do is get her a gift card to our fave restaurants–just not sure if I should.
@KelannaDC: Thanks for the suggestion! I will definitely check out Torrid.
Post # 7
WHen I was plus-sized, a size 20, I could not fit into VS stuff. I don’t know, though, if they’ve expanded their sizes since then, as a lot of stores have.
Post # 8
@housebee: Intentions are awesome on this, but I think your overthinking it, she’s going to be happy with whatever you give her! No Stress!
Post # 9
I don’t think the OP is really focusing on her BMs weight/size. She’s more afraid that she might give her a gift that will hurt her feelings. She sounds worried that there aren’t clothes at VS that will fit the BM, which I can understand.
I like the Macy’s idea but I would get one for both girls so that your BM doesn’t think “Great! I’m so fat and disgusting she didn’t get me a VS card.” Also, I wouldn’t worry about putting different things in the emergency kit but I would maybe include a handwritten, heartfelt note tell each of them how much you love and appreciate them. 🙂
Post # 10
@Nona99: I think you’re right, I am totally over thinking this.
@OctBride-2012: Good idea, I think I’m going to do that! That way they can get whatever they want, and I can get my MOH a VS gift card as her MOH gift.
I had their gifts all planned out when my FMIL (who is plus size) said to me, “Oh I’d never shop there, nothing fits.” I guess I panicked. Thank you bees for all of your suggestions! I swear I’d be pulling all of my hair out if I didn’t have this board lol.
Post # 11
Shoes always fit! Every girl loves shoes!
Post # 12
@housebee: It is so thoughtful of you to ask us this question and that you are sensitive to the fact that this bridesmaid may not be able to use a VS gift card.
I am full-figured and cannot wear the lingerie sizes at VS. Is there a Nordstrom near you? If so, I would suggest getting her a gift card to Nordstrom, because they have beautiful lingerie in plus sizes. And, if she’s not interested in purchasing lingerie, she can purchase anything else her heart desires that they offer, from jewelry to accessories to shoes or clothing.
Post # 13
My boobies can’t fit into anything at VS, but they have scents and cosmetics too! And if they can use it online, they also have shoes and accessories. I’d just get them both a VS card – she’ll find something she likes 🙂
Post # 14
What about a gift cert to your area Mall? Or for a pedi/mani?
Post # 15
You are very sweet to consider your friends feelings!! I am plus sized, and I’m very confortable in my own skin, so even if other people got a VS card, I’d be thrilled to get a Torrid card. If she is sensitive, then I go with what the other Bee suggested. Get them both Macy’s cards, that will eliminate any problems. That’s exactly what I would do. They are lucky girls, you are spoiling them! 🙂
Post # 16
I’m plus sized and I wouldn’t be thrilled with a VS gift card. I’d be appreciative, since it’s the thought that counts and all, but I can’t fit into any of their lingerie and I hate their perfumes and makeup selection. (I once actually received a VS gift card and reluctantly went into the store to use it. I felt really awkward in there, since I obviously couldn’t fit into anything, and just picked up two eyeshadows and got the hell out of there as fast as possible!)
I like the idea of a gift card to a nicer department store. I would avoid the restaurant/bakery idea, though. But Nordstrom’s or Macy’s or whatever you have near you is a great idea – she can buy clothes or accessories or a new purse or whatever she likes! If she likes makeup, Sephora might work too!