(Closed) Need Gift for a plus sized BM…HELP???

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m hearing that you want to make your BM feel good, but I’m a little unsure what her size has to do with the gift you get her. If you’re just thinking about her as a person and what her likes and interests are, what kind of gift would you normally get her for a different occasion, such as her birthday?

Post # 4
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@housebee:  I’m not sure how heavy she is, but Torrid has a nice selection of plus-size clothing (and lingerie).  I’m a plus-size bee, and I HATE Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, The Avenue, etc.  You could also get her a gift card to Macy’s.  She’s bound to find something there that she likes.  Hope this helps.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I don’t understand how her being a curvy girl has anything to do with what you give her…in fact, if you do something different because of it, I would think that might make her feel more conspicous…do something that works for them all and call it good.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

WHen I was plus-sized, a size 20, I could not fit into VS stuff. I don’t know, though, if they’ve expanded their sizes since then, as a lot of stores have.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@housebee:  Intentions are awesome on this, but I think your overthinking it, she’s going to be happy with whatever you give her! No Stress!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think the OP is really focusing on her BMs weight/size.  She’s more afraid that she might give her a gift that will hurt her feelings.  She sounds worried that there aren’t clothes at VS that will fit the BM, which I can understand. 

I like the Macy’s idea but I would get one for both girls so that your BM doesn’t think “Great!  I’m so fat and disgusting she didn’t get me a VS card.”  Also, I wouldn’t worry about putting different things in the emergency kit but I would maybe include a handwritten, heartfelt note tell each of them how much you love and appreciate them. 🙂 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Shoes always fit!  Every girl loves shoes!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@housebee:  It is so thoughtful of you to ask us this question and that you are sensitive to the fact that this bridesmaid may not be able to use a VS gift card.

I am full-figured and cannot wear the lingerie sizes at VS.  Is there a Nordstrom near you? If so, I would suggest getting her a gift card to Nordstrom, because they have beautiful lingerie in plus sizes.  And, if she’s not interested in purchasing lingerie, she can purchase anything else her heart desires that they offer, from jewelry to accessories to shoes or clothing.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My boobies can’t fit into anything at VS, but they have scents and cosmetics too!  And if they can use it online, they also have shoes and accessories.  I’d just get them both a VS card – she’ll find something she likes 🙂

Post # 14
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539 posts
Busy bee

What about a gift cert to your area Mall? Or for a pedi/mani?

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You are very sweet to consider your friends feelings!!  I am plus sized, and I’m very confortable in my own skin, so even if other people got a VS card, I’d be thrilled to get a Torrid card.  If she is sensitive, then I go with what the other Bee suggested.  Get them both Macy’s cards, that will eliminate any problems. That’s exactly what I would do.  They are lucky girls, you are spoiling them! 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m plus sized and I wouldn’t be thrilled with a VS gift card. I’d be appreciative, since it’s the thought that counts and all, but I can’t fit into any of their lingerie and I hate their perfumes and makeup selection. (I once actually received a VS gift card and reluctantly went into the store to use it. I felt really awkward in there, since I obviously couldn’t fit into anything, and just picked up two eyeshadows and got the hell out of there as fast as possible!) 

I like the idea of a gift card to a nicer department store. I would avoid the restaurant/bakery idea, though. But Nordstrom’s or Macy’s or whatever you have near you is a great idea – she can buy clothes or accessories or a new purse or whatever she likes! If she likes makeup, Sephora might work too!

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