Post # 1
So our venue, while BEAUTIFUL, is extremely difficult to work with. Ugh! We were going to start at 3:30 due to being in the fall and we refuse to do a first look…. FI is very traditional and wants to see me walk down the aisle as his first time seeing me. The venue knows this. THe sunset is for 4:45 so if the ceremony ends at 4ish we will have about an hour of picture time (I am hoping this is enough).
I asked if we could have a half hour break between ceremony and coctail hour (and do an hour and a half cocktail hour) as our ceremony start time is the same as most check ins. One hotel is off site so all of the guests staying would have to check in AFTER the reception. Normally not a problem but we want to take everyone to the nearby casio after so there would not be a lot of time. Plus we have to provide our own transportation for this so logistically it made more sense to have a break, have guests check in, and then return.
Well apparantly this is not ok for the venue. They are not allowing a break inbetween. Very frusrated about this more so because for almost everything we wanted it is “their way or the highway”. Again, I LOVE our venue its just annoying we are being treated more as “if you dont want it like this.. feel free to find another venue”. On top of that, by extending our coctail hour we are spending 300 plus tax food and drinks!
So with ALLL of that here are my real questions….
1.) Is an hour really enough time for pictures since we are not doing a first look? We did want to be able to spend time with our guests for cocktail hour.
2.) Around us, most weddings go until about 11. Ours will be ending closer to 9:30 which makes me feel as if guests will seem this is strange. Can I please have any timeline critiqes?
3:30 Ceremony Start
4:00 Cocktail hour for guests, pictures for B and G
5:00 B and G come into cocktail hour
5:30 Cocktail hour ends, reception starts
5:30 – 9:30 Reception
9:30-10 we can choose, for another hefty price, to keep the bar open longer for any guests which want to stay.
Post # 3
Sorry, to add. I guess I am also really feeling ending at 9:30 is SO EARLY, even if we are going out after. We are going to be 29! Again, all wedding I have been to have gone until at LEAST 11pm!
Post # 5
I don’t think it is too early. Your reception is still 4 hours…which is plenty of time for people to eat, drink, and be merry! If you still want to party, is there a fun bar or restaurant near by that could accomodate an after party?
Post # 6
Considering your ceremony starts at 3:30, most guests will start to peeter out sooner. I don’t last 6 hours at a ceremony and reception (maybe I’m pitiful). I don’t usually stay as late as midnight, maybe 11 pm. I think 9:30 would be fine. Guests can pick up their children from the sitter, get home at a decent time, and relax before they go to bed. I think your timeline looks fine (personal preference).
Post # 7
i think an hour for pictures is doable, but you’re definitely going to have to rush it. it also depends on how big (and cooperative, hah) your family/bridal party is. i think we spent about an hour and a half taking pictures- 30-45 minutes at the church and an hour at the reception site.
i think 9:30 is early, but if you have an after party, then i think it’s fine.
Post # 8
@lilchicana: Our ceremony location is the venue so I am hoping that keeps it shorter. Especially if I take all my pictures with the girls and he does all of his, all we need for the hour is the two of us and our families. And I’m with you, 9:30 seems early, just not sure what to do
Post # 9
The venue will or won’t let you do a 1.5 hour cocktail hour?
When it’s all in one place, in the winter, and you want to try to attend the cocktail hour generally – most brides need to do a first look. I tell my brides:
“If there’s no gap and you want to attend the cocktail hour, you need the first look. There’s just no way to do both photos and cocktail hour at once.”
I think 1.5 hour cocktail hour is perfect if they can give you that.
9:30 is a great ending for the reception – ppl start to leave at that time generally anyway!
Post # 10
@kwynn: We can do the 1.5 coctail hour. We wanted to have a break between the ceremony and coctail hour to allow guests to check in. If we choose to do the 1.5hr coctail, the venue would only be “closed” 30 minutes.