Post # 1
Need advice – I am so excited about getting married, but depressed about planning this wedding. Throughout the years my best friends have moved away to different states. Some I have kept touch with but it isn’t the same. My fiance has already picked out his guys. I have friends here that I talk with at work or have done little with outside of work but not close to anyone. I don’t know what to do I dont want my Mom as my MOH and I dont have any counsins or sisters….. has anyone been in this situation before? I feel awkard asking someone I barely know for something soooo special and then on the other hand I feel awkard asking someone in another state that i barely connect with anyone more…. anyone have any advice… it is greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
I didn’t have any close friends living nearby. You can still have people as your bridesmaids even if they don’t live close to you. My MIL was the main person who helped me with planning my wedding.
Post # 4
:[ i know how you feel. i don’t have many people that i’m close to anymore around and my FI lives in another state so i feel like our wedding is going to just be full of all of our older relatives and not fun for any of our very few younger guests. for maids, you guys could either choose not to have them or to limit them and have his extra guys be either ushers or readers. you shouldn’t choose people that you don’t really want standing with you, so if your out of towners are an option, i’d pursue it. my MOH lives in Chicago and I live in OK and honestly i probably wont see her until right before, but i don’t need her help planning – just her presence!
Post # 5
It is tough when the people you’re close to don’t physically live close. If there are people you want to be involved, I wouldn’t let distance be a hinderance. Three (out of four) of my people live in California (I’m in NYC), and one of those, my MOH, recently got married herself, and I helped plan from here. 🙂 (Hurray for skype and email!)
Though there is a nice thing about being able to plan in person, the power of the internt allows for long distance planning to occur. I’d say focus on the people you feel are special enough to you that you want them to be included. And if that’s only one or two people, then that’s fine…don’t feel the need to match your fiance’s numbers. I think the most important thing about picking a wedding party is thinking about who you will feel most supported by. And once you figure that out, then you can ask them. 🙂