Post # 1
Need your help ladies. My invites do not have inner envelopes which is where generally where you would put (especially for a single guest) Mr. John Doe and Guest.
The outside envelope should usuall just read Mr. John Doe with Address. But since I am not having an inner envelope do I include Guest in the address line or don’t include at all and let people assume they can bring a guest. Please advise.
Post # 3
I would include the guest’s name on the outer envelope.
Post # 4
But what if you don’t know the guest they are bringing. Does it look tacky to address it Mr. John Doe and Guest, Address?
Post # 5
I encountered the same problem but I just left out the "and guest" on the outside…don’t know if that’s proper etiquette but after addressing the 50th envelope I became pretty lax with my standards. 🙂
Post # 6
Maybe you can state it on the RSVP card…
"We’ve reserved __ seats for you" and then fill in the blank w/ "2."
Post # 7
This is probably so not helpful if you have a big guest list with a lot of singles, but we are actually calling our single guests to ask if there is someone we should include on their invitation by name. If the answer is negative, we are addressing just to them and assuming they will not bring a guest.
In the case of families with children, I would include them on the line below the main address line, just as you would on the inner envelope.
I was raised to believe that for any formal event, it was not appropriate to write "and guest."
Post # 8
I think the way you have planned on doing it is fine – I’m in the same boat and I decided that not following perfect etiquette is a-OK.
Besides, writing the guest’s name on the envelope is not always practical – you may not know who it will be; if they are a couple they may break up in the mean time, etc. Nobody will be offended by "and guest," especially since it will clarifiy to them that they CAN bring one.
Post # 9
I know it’s anti-etiquette, but I am putting Mr John Doe and Guest on the outter envelope. I’m not haivng inner envelopes either.
I know it’s not "right" but unless I want to order more envelopes (and a wee bit larger, thus upping my postage again) or change to outter part of my invite "wrap" – it will do for us.
I pray the etiquette Gods can forgive me ANd that my Grandmohter done’t scream at me. lol.
Post # 10
I am also putting Mr. John Doe and Guest on the outer envelope with no inner envelope. To echo previous sentiments… ppl break up, etc plus with a 200 person guestlist, it’s hard to track down sig other’s names.