Post # 1
I need advice. I have never been on a forum before so please bare with me. My fiance and I are having a destination wedding at Costa Rica in June 2012. We are only having our close family and best friends be there (about 12 people). After our honeymoon, we are having a reception for all family and friends, which is probably about 100-130 people. We don’t know anyone that has ever had a destination wedding, then come home a week later for a reception so this is very uncharted waters for us and my family to plan. We were thinking about having a “cocktail reception” about 2pm and serving build your own salad bar, sandwiches, appetizers, etc. We are having a 3 tier cake since we won’t have it in Costa Rica. As for anything else, we are clueless. Do you have a DJ? Should we adjust the time and serve something else? The tables are rectangle and the chairs are basic metal fold up chairs. Should we do chair covers? Do you still have the first dance, mother/son dance, etc since that would have been done at the destination wedding? What have others done for their reception after their destination wedding? Please help with any adivce you can provide. Thank you so much!
Post # 3
@Costa Rica Bride: I hope it’s not against the rules to link you to http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/f/ It’s also a forum and there is a section for planning AHRs!
We are also thinking of doing a SMALL AHR after our destination wedding to Cancun. We won’t be doing any of the things that we’ve done at the destination (eg. garter toss, first dance etc). Others may, sorry I don’t have more information for you!!
Post # 4
@mrsbruff2b: Don’t be sorry. I appreciate the comment. Thank you
Post # 5
In my mind you can do whatever you want!
We had an AHR two months after the wedding. My parents rented out a clubhouse of a beach community (have a family member who lives there). Her friend is a caterer so she made all the food (my mom bought it). Another of her friends is a pastry chef so she made our cake. My brother is a sommelier so he got all the alcohol for cheap. My mom wanted to hire a DJ but I said no so we just hooked an iPod up to some speakers for music.
The only weddingy thing we did was cut the cake. Basically we just wanted a low-key party, not really a reception. And it was perfect!
Post # 6
i am with the PPs and also was about to recommend that website http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com for its AHR section! I got a lot of help there in planning mine. We did a backyard BBQ style of AHR and it turned out great. We also did a slide show of our wedding pics from Jamaica and showed our wedding ceremony video on a big screen we set up in the backyard. As for the other stuff, its really up to you and what you can afford. i had the BBQ, other people go all out with renting a venure, DJ and wearing their wedding attire again.
Post # 7
@SuperKate: that sounds about how my fiance and i are going towards our ahr. we decided on not having a dj. but having a projector to show pictures from our wedding and set up the ipod for music. we will have a 3 tiered cake though since we won’t have an actual cake for our wedding. as for food, trying to keep it finger sandwiches, apps, fruit, build your own salad, etc. and thats about as far as my fiance and i have gotten. haha. so many decisions. just want to make the right ones.