- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So, I need help. Badly. I feel like I’m all alone finding my dress, and I’m at the point where I just can’t do this on my own, and I don’t even want to deal with it anymore. I’m getting married this September (possibly – we don’t even have our site approved yet! Or the photographer or caterer, etc, etc…..). I have been to David’s Bridal twice and a local consignment shop once. My fiance and I are working on a very small budget, so I have to find a dress for under $200. Add on top of that the fact that my family is offering no help, has not come to visit me for dress shopping or even offered to go shopping with me when I come home to visit, and the fact that my best friend was supposed to come shopping with me twice and bailed twice… I feel very alone.
The only person who is around for me to take shopping is my fiance’s mother – who, by all means, is a very nice woman and very sweet, but she’s not very helpful when it comes to critiquing how a dress REALLY looks on me. Case in point: the first time I went shopping, I tried on a bunch of empire waisted chiffon dresses. FI Mom says I look nice, then I send pictures to my mom and sister, and I get back “NO it looks like a pregnancy dress.”
Ok, so here’s the scene so you all can help me. FI and I are planning a small shin-dig. Less than 50 people, casual, outdoor ceremony, reception held in a barn. Fall country rustic decor, no band, generic wedding food, no cake (dessert table and maybe cupcakes instead). I wanted a dress that I could have fun in, not worry about a bustle or train, one that I could move in and dance in, but still makes me feel beautiful and makes me look good in those random candid photos.
The second time I went to DB, I found a dress that I thought I loved. FI Mom says it’s very pretty, DB consultant likes it, then they put on a veil and gave me a bouquet (they’re sneaky like that) and I cried. I thought “this has to be it!” It looks nothing like a real wedding dress – it’s short, sheer halter top overlay, and it’s all chiffon in the skirt. Afterwards I looked at the pictures, and I’m not so sure. (I also thought later about how much it resembles the famed Marilyn Monroe dress)
Then, I went to a consignment shop alone. And I found this dress. It fits FABULOUSLY off the rack, it accentuates everything and slims what it should, and it’s a $650 dress that the owner said I could have for $200 because “she just wants me to have a dress!”. My only concerns are about the loooong train AND the fact that this dress is NOTHING like I have been describing as what I wanted. It’s fancy, strapless, has that poofy crinaline at the bottom, and it has either a chapel or catherdral length train – which I never wanted. But I felt beautiful in it, it was comfortable, and hell, that’s a pretty damn good deal.
Last and final thoughts before I show you the pictures. I sent pictures of both dresses to my best friend for her opinion. Her reactions were, respectively, “I cant tell… it’s not a very good photo…. did you want short?…” and then “HOLY CRAP! That’s awesome! How much? Say yes to the dress!!”
So, I’m a little confused now. What I thought I wanted, may not look so great on me. But what I thought I never wanted- the long train – is it worth it to put up with it for a dress that is otherwise way out of my price range and makes me look and feel fabulous?
Dress #1. AKA, the “I can’t tell….” dress.
And now dress #2. AKA the “holy crap!” dress.
So there you have it. I really appreciate any thoughts, ideas, suggestions, opinions – anything!! Thank you so much 🙂