Post # 1
I need advice. I have never been on a forum before so please bare with me. My fiance and I are having a destination wedding in Costa Rica in June 2012. We are only having close family and friends be there (about 12 people). After our honeymoon, we are having a reception for all our family and friends, which is probably about 100-130 people. We don’t know anyone who have ever had a destination wedding, then come back a week later for a reception. So, this is very uncharted waters for us and my family to plan. We were thinking about having a “cocktail reception” about 2pm and serving build your own salad bar, sandwiches, appetizers, etc. We are having a 3 tier cake since we won’t have that in Costa Rica. As for anything else, we are clueless. Do we have a DJ? Should we adjust the time and serve something else? The tables are rectangle and the chairs are basic metal chairs. Should we use chair covers? Do you still have a first dance, mother/son dance, etc since we would have done that at the destination wedding? What have others done for their reception after their destination wedding. Please help with any advice you can provide. Thank you so much!
Post # 3
@Costa Rica Bride:
This is your party and you can plan it just like you would a normal reception..but now you have more opportunities, like starting it earlier!
You can make it as enjoyable as possible!
Since you already will have the separate dances, you don’t need to repeat them, if you don’t want too. If this was my reception, I would do what makes me happy. I think having separate dances with parents can be very meaningful if you are close or want to get closer to your parents. But, if it just feels like a “have to” then I wouldn’t do it.
As for chair covers, that’s up to preference and cost. You can make it formal or relaxed or even compliment the flowers.
I think you may be feeling pressure to do it one way or another, I hope you don’t. Do what’s right for you.
Post # 4
I’m having a Destination Wedding and a reception when I get back. The fun thing about it is there are no rules. Seriously, you can decide to have a backyard bbq, a formal get together, just a party, whatever you like!!
As for us, we are having pretty much a full reception back home. We are having a full dinner and dance with a DJ. We will show a slideshow of the wedding and probably a small portion of the wedding video.
Basically, you can do whatever makes sense for you and Fiance. Nobody will know what to expect so you don’t have that pressure of doing the “normal wedding traditions”, but you can do them if you want to.
And FYI lots of advice on this topic on http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com
Post # 5
@PuntaCanaBride: Thank you so much for the link. I will check it out. We are trying to to a combination of “traditional” wedding reception as well as being casual. Hopefully it will turn out well. Good luck putting all your details together. You seem to have it all under control and know what you want. That’s great.