Need help finding suggestions for Mother of the Groom dress!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
11634 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe you can make a day of it and go shopping with her, so she has an idea of what you expect.  Also, tradition dictates that the MOB buys her dress first, then tells MOG the color/style/formality so she can match.  If your mom gets a dress first, perhaps that will give your FMIL some ideas.  

Look online at gowns (Nordstrom’s has a MOB section that could also work for MOG), or at a store like David’s.  

But, in all honestly, give her guidelines (length, color, formality) and let her pick her own from there.  She has plenty of time, so no need for this to be a stressor for you yet. 

Post # 5
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m a 4 time MOB (well, DD #4 gets married next Summer).  I have to be honest here – why are you worrying about this?  None of my girls had any input on what I wore to their weddings and #4 won’t either.  I have been dressing myself for a long time and I’ve got this.

I do understand that she seems to be a bit discombulated here but let it go!  Ask your FSIL to  help her find a dress and take it off your plate.  There are plenty of things you will need to worry about but this isn’t one of them.

I also have to put this out there – I truly hate the “MOB buys first, MOG coordinates” tradition.  This comes from the day when a MOB planned her DD’s wedding, it was her magnum opus in the world of society and was a make it or break it as to whether she was the uber hostess of the universe.  The bride and groom were lucky to be invited, it was MOB’s shindig.  Since she was the Queen Bee (no pun intended) MOG waited til MOB bought her dress, then purchased hers and kept her mouth shut.

I have incredible regard for all of my DDs’ MIL’s and could never treat them so disrespectfully.  I never coordinated with the Brides or the MOGs and all of my DDs have beautiful wedding pictures.

I really encourage you to ask FSIL for help and let it go.

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I got asked what I wanted them to wear by both my own mother and my fiance’s mother. Honestly, I care that they love what they’re wearing. That’s it. But in a push, I started pinning a ton of suggestions of things that I think would be lovely.

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