Post # 1
Okay, I had no idea where to post this so I settled on Logistics lol. I have a question for anyone willing to read my story, especially any fellow indecisive brides.
Basically I feel like the most indecisive bride ever! I am sooo looking forward to being married to my FH but I have been going back in forth in my head of how I want to go about this whole wedding thing. Initially we were planning a traditional wedding at a golf club with about 130 guests. I was feeling like it wasn’t true to our personalities (we aren’t flashy and it was going in that direction, and I don’t like being the center of attention in large groups). On top of that, financial situations also forced us to end those plans.
Now I’m in a position where our date is up in the air, and I’m struggling with what my vision even is. I know I don’t want a whole lot of people and hooplah (60 or less sounds great), but I don’t know if we should just have a semi elopement with nearest and dearest with a dinner afterward, or a more traditional reception with DJ etc for a slightly larger crowd. I just can’t stand this planning process and all the details like seating charts, programs, center pieces…it’s weird but I really don’t care about any of the formalities beyond the actual ceremony!
Any advice is appreciated! Basically I want to know if anybody has ideas on creative ways I can have a special day without driving myself nuts with details I don’t care for. I do want to feel like a bride, but I don’t want to get stuck in a mold that I’m not comfy in. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Well I don’t think anyone can tell you what you should do, but I just want to say that you can absolutely have a traditional wedding without caring about seating charts and stuff. You can have a very low key reception. You will have to pick your food, cake, dress, etc but you don’t have to go crazy!
Post # 4
I would try to find a banquet facility or something to that idea that would basically provide you with everything and has a list of reputable vendors that they go with. keeping it small will keep it easy on you. By going with their vendors, they will know the dimensions of the room and the facility looks. If they are always doing flowers for centerpieces and decor at that certain location, all you have to do is tell them your colors and size and they should be able to give you examples. Also if the facility gives you everything then it makes it much easier. Table linens, etc all included make life so much easier. Also it’s a lot easier than i thought to put together a table chart, but you dont need to go crazy with this. If you want to do something simple just list tables and those that are sitting at it. I wouldn’t go crazy with assigned seating. If you keep it low key and informal, no one will think twice about all of the formalities being absent. My friend has a JOP ceremony at the courthouse and had a dinner at a local banquet hall. It was nice and informal. They got their cake from the grocery store too.
Post # 5
I totally understand you on this one! I have had a really hard time pin pointing what exactly I want. Especially with everyone giving their input. I was also driving FI crazy with my indecisiveness. One day, I would LOVE a venue or wedding concept, and then the next day…totally change my mind. I think what helped me a lot is that we finally sat down and wrote out a list of what makes us “us.” We listed all the things that we love, it went something like this:
1. We love each other(of course lol)
4. We love the outdoors(walks in gardens and beaches)
and so on….it sounds dumb but it really helped me to focus on who we are and what we wanted our wedding to be. So from that list…we are having an “art” themed wedding. My FI proposed in an art gallery so this was very fitting). i was able to find a venue(actually the muti-cultural/center in my neighborhood) that has an art gallery inside. We will be married in the venue’s botanical gardens and the cocktail hour/reception will be in the art gallery. I don’t know what your budget is but this venue was fairly inexpensive in comparison to the country clubs in my area(and I didn’t even want a country club wedding!)…$2000 including a lot of the things that I would need to rent separately if I went with some of the other venues…so think outside the box! And figure out what works for you guys…this is a special day that will reflect you. Good luck!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Focus on the details that matter to you- the ceremony. Keep your reception as simple as possible. BBQ in someone’s backyard? Brunch? Cake and punch reception? Picnic in the park? Vineyard?
Are there any locations in your town that mean something to you and FI? DH and I got married and had our reception at any industrial museum…VERY Baltimore, VERY much fit our personalities.
Post # 7
@JBtimestwo, your wedding sounds like it will be really nice!
Thanks everyone for the advice. Most likely we will be going with a B&B brunch type thing. I will have to just figure out what the most important aspects are to me, and go from there!