- Big Truck
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Ok so I might be blowing things out of proportion, but I kindly ask for your opinions on what my BF said last night.
Let me preface this by saying that we’re going on vacation to Disney at the end of the month (YAAAY!). We’ve had this trip booked since July. We decided to go in October/November just to get a break from work and see what Disney’s like in the off-season. But I digress.
Towards the end of July and into early August was when we started talking about buying rings. I showed him what I liked, we went to jewelers together. I was having a hard time picking what I wanted, but BF kindly asked that I have something chosen by the end of August. This made my radar go off. Why so soon? What’s the rush? I assumed maybe he wanted to propose at Disney. *swoon*
Well, luck would have it that I’d find the ring of my dreams in August. He bought it and has had it in his possession since the end of August, over a month now. He knows he has to ask my father’s permission before he proposes. He DEFINITELY knows this.
So BF and I are talking last night, and the topic of my father comes up and he says something like, “I wonder what he’ll say when I go talk to him.” And I (knowing full well he hasn’t talked to my dad yet) reply, “You still haven’t talked to him? Sheesh when’s that gonna happen?”
He replied, “I dunno. I might go talk to him before Disney.”
Now, I know how you guys are reading it, but the way he SAID it is what made my red flags go up. My BF cannot lie to me. He cannot fib or keep a secret from me because he can’t keep a straight face. So when he said the above statement, I thought he might be joking, but he was dead-ass serious. Not a hint of a smile on his face.
If he doesn’t propose on this vacation (which I’ve been counting down since he purchased the damn ring!), I will fall into a depression of immense proportions.
Maybe it was wrong of me to assume it’s gonna be at Disney. It makes sense though, no? Why would he want me to pick something by the end of August?
However, who wants to travel with a ring? It’s not even insured yet, and BF is so paranoid, I’m not sure he’d bring it with him for fear of losing it or having it stolen.
I am grateful that my best friend wants to marry me, and I’m excited to get engaged, but I was NOT planning on waiting past this Disney vacation, to be honest. And I said to him, “I’m not waiting til my birthday (December) for this ring, I’ll kill you. I can’t wait that long.” He didn’t say anything in response.
He *might* go talk to my father before vacation. UGHHHHH.
Everyone at work thinks he’s gonna propose at Disney, but now I’m not too sure. I will be so upset to come home without a ring, seriously.
Maybe he’s bluffing, but I don’t think so. Mehhhhh.
Then last night we were talking about something entirely different, about one of my friends who is engaged and not in the most stable relationship, and my BF says, “Well at least you’re lucky. Your future husband seems to have it together.” To which I politely nodded, but in my head I was screaming, “I won’t consider you my future husband until you propose. Until then, you’re just my perpetual boyfriend! AAAGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!”
I know I’m overreacting, and I’m sorry I’m so crazy about it. I should just be glad we’re gonna get married at some point.
But last night was just a “bad waiting night” for me and I needed to vent.