Post # 1
Ok Bees, this is going to be a kinda emotional post so I apologize. In the past 15 months, I have lost 100lbs. It was by far the greatest accomplishment of my life. My FI and I have been together for six yrs so he has literally seen my thru thick and thin. I still want to loose approx 35 more lbs before the wedding, which I have plenty of time, its next summer. But I have fallen off my healthy eating and 5x per week exercise regimen and I think I know why….
I mentioned in a few other posts and I dont want to be a debbie downer, but I lost my mother about six weeks ago suddenly. Its been a nightmare. While I know I havent gained any weight (thank god) I surely am not following the same pattern as before. I eat all the time, Ive gotten back into exercising some but only two days a week. I am much more easy going about what I put in my mouth, and I really think its just comfort. I am going to grief counseling and they tell me to take it one day at a time, but its really hard not to get stressed about it. I want to get my drive back and run and workout and be healthy and get the banging body I always dreamed of….. but I feel like my motivation and drive is gone.
ANY advice or encouragement would be appreciated more than you will ever know!! Thanks for letting me vent!
Post # 3
Maybe stick some inspiring pictures on yourself on your fridge? Perhaps maybe one of you at your heaviest? and then another at your thinest? And keep it right next to the handle on the fridge and big enough so that you notice it? Seeing skinny pics of myself keeps me motivated (even though I was a piggy today and fell off the wagon!)… And sorry about your loss
Post # 4
First off, sorry about your loss. Losing someone close to you is never easy. I hope you do better. Take things easy and take it one step at a time. At least you have your FI by your side through this tough times.
Second, congrats on losing that weight! 100 lbs lost is no east feat!
Lastly, you can do this! I know all you want to do is eat and grieve but you can grieve while being healthy. If you need a good cry, pop in The Notebook and grab some light popcorn. Or if you are frustrated, pop on your IPOD and go for a walk to clear your head. Music always helps.
Post # 5
@MrsJKH2b– Thats a good idea, I never thought to put photos up on the fridge! I am going to do that tonight. I always loved myself before when I was heavier but I really do cringe to look back at old photos and see how unhealthy I was. Thanks for the tips 🙂
@BostomHelen– Thank you 🙂 And youre right I know I can do it, it just seems impossible. I do NOT want to fall back into old habits.
Post # 6
First, I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your mom. My heart goes out to you, I can’t imagine how hard that must be.
Second, wow, I’m impressed that you lost 100 pounds! That’s an amazing accomplishment. I can imagine that it’s tough to keep up your healthy lifestyle when you’re under so much stress lately. I know there have been times where I’ve been really stressed and my working out/healthy eating has really suffered. However, for me, I always try to remember that even though it’s hard, I have to take care of myself, too. Maybe your old routine might be a little overwhelming right now, so you might want to start small. Just find a couple of times a week to fit in a workout, or go for a walk when you’re feeling stressed. I know for me, the times I’ve been most stressed, working out has been a savior. I feel like I’m able to just concentrate on the task at hand–running on the treadmill or taking my spin class–and the rest of my life/stress sort of stops for a little while. Taking some time out to take care of yourself might help you get through this time. Oh and don’t beat yourself up if you’re not kicking it into high gear right away. Just start small and you can do it!
Post # 7
So sorry about your loss, it’s never gonna be easy to deal with, but it WILL ease. My mum’s 3 years gone now. You do get through it. You won’t at any time quite know how, but I think it’s like any tough time in life… you have no idea afterwards how you did it, but you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and somehow it gets you there. I’m sure when you started on your weight loss you prob thought it was an impossible task, and look where you are now! I have to keep telling myself that i can’t magic my weight away, it’s gonna go 1lb at a time, I didn’t gain it overnight either. You must tell how you did lose that 100lbs, though. I am in awe.
If you can, just hold the pattern for the next month or two, even, and gradually ramp it up, as you feel able.
And as Jessie says, there is a certain relief in going to the gym / swim / whatever and just parking your troubles for an hour. And of course, if you are doing your workout, you’re not adding annoyance at yourself to your already overloaded emotional plate!
Best of luck, and go easy on yourself!
Post # 8
@Jessie516– Thank you so much. And I know it really is just one day at a time and small steps. I have been running some and working out when I really feel like I can get a good workout in. And my FI has been great too, he asks me almost every day if I want to go for a walk and it just occured to me now why he probably is lol to get me out and moving! Thanks for the advice 🙂
@auntpol– Thank you for the kind words and I’m sorry for your loss too. 3 yrs and Im sure its still hard. Youre absolutely right though about just one foot in front of the other. As far as how I lost the weight, one day I just said enough is enough I’m changing my lifestyle. I had a lot of amazing support in my friends and family, I joined a weightloss challenge thru work to jump start everything and my original goal was 30lbs…and after I hit that I just kept making small goals til I reached 100. Now I just have a little more to go! Thanks again for all the advice 🙂
Post # 9
(hugs) I’m so sorry for your loss, I cannot even begin to fathom what you’re going through. I by no means think you are being a debbie downer, you’re being human! This is a hard time in your life and it’s hard to stick to the changes you’ve made. Just take it day by day. I totally agree about the light popcorn, I’ll get the 100 calorie packs and they’re perfect for a snack. It feels like you’re cheating on your diet but it could certainly be worse! I agree with the iPod and walking, that’s what I do if I’m having a rough day. There is something about fresh air, music I love and getting a little exercise all at the same time. It’s very refreshing. Stick to it, you’ll get through this and we’ll all be there for you if you need to vent!
Post # 10
I tihnk 100 pounds is great…. just think about that…..that alone should inspire you.
sorry for your loss. i feel your pain…i lost mine 7 months ago. keep up the good work you will definitely lose what you want.
Post # 11
@KansasPrincess11– Thank you 🙂 I know its just one day at a time and when I dont feel like working out hardcore I need to just take a good walk.
@lillola– Hugs to you…so sorry for your loss too.