Need help handling bridesmaids!!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am SO sorry! I am having issues with everyone wanting a different dress. I recommend getting your dresses made on Etsy from a seller with a lot of feedback. Custom dresses come in any size and then you don’t have to go to the salon and deal with everyone’s opinion. You can show them a few different styles and then they can choose the dress they want, just make sure you get them all in the same color. 

Post # 5
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1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@cupcakesESQ:  I think you need to find out what they can afford, then pick a designer and a color. If you want them to match, here’s the dress number. Then order by X date. Your cousin doesn’t like the color, tough. Not her wedding. For HER wedding, she can pick a color SHE likes.

Post # 7
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cupcakesESQ:  You have more drama than you need! I am so sorry! My bridesmaids are all such nice and wonderful people, but it is more difficult than I thought it would be to make everyone feel comfortable. 

Post # 8
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cupcakesESQ:  Your wedding it 4 weeks after my wedding, I suggest J. Crew for your bridal party. They run small, I have to worn you… but there is a beautiful ‘morning sky’ color on sale right now that is perfect for spring. What are your wedding colors? BHLDN is also great for bridesmaids, but they’re more expensive. Nordstrom is great as well. I suggest looking at J. Crew before letting them decide elsewhere. 

Post # 9
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cupcakesESQ: For your friend since age 7, I think you should buy her the dress as her gift. I would never want anyone to step down as my BM due to cost; and it sounds like otherwise she’s been ok.

Your cousin sounds more problematic – I mean really, throwing a fit in a store when you’re in your 40s?? Anyway, I think you need to phone her, because emails are too easily ignored. I think she needs to be given a deadline.

Also (speaking as a 40 something woman with kids myself), maybe she feels a little self conscious being in with younger thinner prettier bridesmaids. Perhaps you could gently move her to another role. like doing a reading or something, if she misses the deadline.

Post # 10
Member
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Maybe you can have a meeting with them and tell them that you are getting upset and stressed and that if they can do anything to help alleviate the stress that would be helpful? This is a difficult situation. 

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