Post # 1
Hello bees! I need some help and I know you’ll have great suggestions.
My sister was just recently diagnosed with brain cancer and is currently undergoing treatments. We are going shopping for her wedding gown soon, and I want to make this extra special for her. She’s had such a rough, emotional, terrifying few months and I want to be sure she really enjoys the day.
Her energy level declines pretty fast, so we’ll probably be doing morning shopping. She can’t have alcohol, so champagne and wine are out. I don’t know why, but I’m really drawing a blank on what to do!
Any and all suggestions welcome!!! Thanks ladies.
Post # 3
What about her having a manicure the morning before? Sorry to hear about her dx. That’s rough.
Post # 4
@creativeplannertobee: Thanks! That’s a great idea 🙂
Post # 5
Here are some options that might help make her day:
sparkling grape juice or orange juice and sprite (still special but fun.)
mani’s and pedi’s the day before.
If she tires quickly have her print off some photos of styles she’s interested in to ‘cut to the chase’ so to speak.
Don’t be afraid to take it slow and take your time. If she needs a break give her one.
Not sure if she’s going through chemo or if she has had some of her hair shaved but you can always do a fun bridal bandana or a fun ‘mini veil’ that’s easy to remove for the fitting.
Keep it fun and light hearted. This is so super exciting!
Take pictures if you can. Even if you don’t find a dress that day you can use the photos to go off of for features she loved and hated in her dress.
Post # 6
No better suggestions other than what PPs have already said but I just wanted to say I hope you guys have a lovely time shopping! Positive and healing thoughts your sister’s way.
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Post # 8
@palmtree: I love some of the suggestions that have already been posted! You’re an awesome sister for really going out of your way to make this a memorable experience. The one thing I will say is perhaps make a call to the bridal salon and give them the heads up that she tires easily, and that perhaps you or someone else should be in the fitting room with her to help out. Sometimes consultants have “SALE” on their mind, and might not fully understand.
But, the bridal bandanda (and perhaps matching ones for the group), sparkling grape juice, and any snacks that might help her keep her energy up are all good ideas.
Post # 9
I would also try and stay away from heavy or heavily beaded dresses unless she is in love with them because on her wedding day all the stress/walking will add up and heavy dresses will make it even more tiring. Keep it light if possible!
Post # 10
I second the manicure & calling the salons. Make arrangements for a nice lunch afterward (or give her time to nap and then go out to lunch). If she hasn’t started chemo/radiation yet maybe schedule her to get her hair blown out before you go.
Dress shopping is tiring for anyone, so make sure you have her drink water and eat enough during the appts. Maybe schedule 2 appointments – one in the morning, have lunch, then one in the afternoon?
Maybe get ‘bridal entourage’ sashes or shirts for everyone shopping with her?
This could be a budget blowers, but you could make a weekend out of it, and rent her a fancy hotel room for the night. Or rent a limo for the day to drive you around to appts.
Post # 11
@palmtree: Hugs to you for being an awesome sister. How about a box of pink sprinkly girly donuts? Or you could make a mix tape of all kinds of silly wedding songs to play on the drive.
But I’ll tell ya what, the fact that you’re here looking for ideas tells me that just having you there with your awesome energy and love for her is already going to be over-the-top special 🙂
Post # 12
@palmtree: Grab a bottle of martinelli’s sparkling cider to make up for the lack of champagne (it tastes better IMO anyway. ~_^)
1) show up at her place to pick her up with awesome donuts, or croissants and cheese or muffins, or bagels, or whatever tasty, easily eaten meal works best for you two.
2) Gift her with an awesome button up shirt with bride written on it. Half the effort of getting into and out of dresses all day is getting undressed simply and easily. A button up shirt will help (and she’ll be comfy and cute between appointments!) A pair of hillarious undies (with something stupid/funny written on them or the word bride) might also be fun/funny.
3) pack a pick me up bag. Have some soda (if she can have caffein) a small snack (depending on her appetite) another small present like
4) Make sure you can take pictures of the gowns. If need be, explain that you guys might not have much time in each dress because it would be too tiring to the consultant. That way, you can snap quick pictures of all of the gowns so that she doesn’t miss something just because she’s too tired to really look at herself without distractions.
5) Help her out with her “luggage” She’s probably going to have a purse, and to make things easier on everyone, she should have some pictures of dresses she’s interested with her. The less stuff she has to lug around, the easier things will be for her.
6) Be cheerful, have fun, and make sure she’s comfortable leaving whenever she likes and cancelling appointments after that point.
I don’t think you have to worry a ton. You guys are going to have a blast, and from your origional post, I can tell you are a caring and considerate sibling. 🙂
Post # 13
@Treeline: +1 I agree. It will make trying on gowns easier, and it will also make her wedding day easier.
Post # 14
Wow, I truly can’t thank you all enough for your suggestions! These are all amazing ideas and I can’t wait to spoil her 🙂
It may sound corny, but you truly brought tears to my eyes. I never expected this to be the way we’d be shopping for dresses together, but want to make the memory as positive as I can for her!
Again, thank you, thank you, thank you!
Post # 15
I really appreciate all the great suggestions from everyone. We had an amazing visit and my sister found a dress that is beautiful on her 🙂
Post # 16
This isn’t so much a suggestion to help make her day more special BUT probably a suggestion you haven’t thought of. Call ahead to any salon and request that they put your sister in the closest dressing room to the viewing area (or if they can find some other way to help out with her tiredness). In some salons it can be a little bit of a walk from the room to the “runway”. For instance at Kleifelds they have the platform right outside the dressing room AND that main area in front of the couch (which seems to be a good bit of distance away).