Post # 1
Hi everyone! I know this may seem minor and possibly obvious, but I am so confused as to what to do! We are having a non-religious ceremony, and I’m confused as to what to do when. For example, when everyone walks down the aisle, if we face the registrar person in the beginning then turn to each other later, when to give the bouquet to my maid of honor, when I get it back, etc etc etc!!! Can anyone help please?? Did anyone feel this same way? Thanks!
Post # 3
@MeeshelleMyBelle: Is there anyone in your bridal party that has been married? I didn’t really know how all these things worked either, but between my sister and my parents, we had enough experts to figure it all out 🙂
My ceremony was nonreligious as well, so what we did is:
– Everyone walks down the aisle — that is, the parents, the officiant, the groom, the groomsmen, the bridesmaids — the whole shebang.
– Dad walks me down the aisle; when we get to the front, he hugs and kisses me, then hugs the groom and while he’s hugging the groom I hand off the bouquet
– Groom and I face each other pretty much immediately and we decided not to hold hands because it might be awkward, so we just crossed our hands in front of ourselves. Officiant helped lead us through everything else, like vows and rings and all that because he had his whole speech written (with stage directions, haha)
– After the pronouncement and the kiss, we turn to the audience and are announced as “Mr. and Mrs.” and everyone cheers. Then I turned and took back the bouquet just before recessing
I think what we did was fairly standard for a secular ceremony, but don’t worry if you don’t really know what to do — that’s what people who are already married are for! That, and the rehearsal 🙂 I think we ran it at least four or five times before we had it down pat!
Post # 4
@iarebridezilla: Hello! No one in the bridal party is married, unfortunately! And my mom had a Catholic ceremony so everything I mention she says she has never heard of that before! Thank you so much for going through everything! That makes me feel *a lot* better! Thank you!!
Post # 5
@MeeshelleMyBelle: Oh goodness! Weddingbee to the rescue!
The only other thing to remember is that the only time you turn your back to the audience is to hand the bouquet. For any other turn-and-grabs (like when the groom takes the rings from the Best Man and when you grab back your bouquet), you turn TOWARDS the audience instead of away from them. If that makes any sense. Just so the pictures of these handoffs aren’t of anyone’s backsides 😉
Post # 6
@MeeshelleMyBelle: Are you having an officiant? Get someone experienced and they will walk you through the entire process. That or youtube some weddings.
Post # 7
I am assuming you are British? In the UK the bridesmaids go after the bride since they are her attendants and may need to help with train/veil/etc.
Post # 8
@iarebridezilla: Aw thank you! That is *great* advice!!!
@ohmybears48: We’re having someone from the registrar? I think that’s the same thing, but I’m not entirely sure! Hopefully he or she will tell us what to do!! Thank you!
@ladyartichoke: I’m actually American but I’m living in England and my fiance is English! I personally don’t like that British tradition so I’m not having it! I’d rather stick to my American ways for most of the wedding! But thank you!