Post # 1
Hi Bees, I need your thoughts! So, I’m having a traditional Catholic ceremony. The church has strict rules i.e. no shoulders, no boobs, no back. I bought my dress about a month ago, fell in love with Enzoani Darwin but she’s strapless so I’ll need some type of shrug/bolero/jacket for the actual ceremony. I know there are a ton of options on etsy/ebay/etc..but I’m worried they won’t match my dress. I stumbled across a picture on pinterest an absolutely love the look. I’m almost 100% the dress in the pic is Pronovias Pergola. I actually tried this dress on, loved the style, but it didn’t sit well on my hips so I went with a dropped waist. Both dresses have a soft sweetheart top, ruched tulle bodice and a lace skirt. My Darwin just has the bling belt and a dropped waist so my question is, do you think this lace top would work on my dress? Is it too much going on because I have the belt and she doesn’t?
This is me in my dress. Disregard the lace bolero I have on in the pic. (sorry about the low quality!)
Here is the pic I found online of the lace addition to the top of the Pronovias Pergola that I absolutely love. So soft and elegant and would meet the church requirements.
Do you think this type of custom made piece would work on my Darwin? I need to make up my mind super soon as I would need to order the tulle/lace to match my dress. I don’t know if I should splurge on the custom made piece or just go with a short sleeve lace bolero like the one I have on in my pic. Thoughts??
Post # 3
I do love the delicateness of the custom made piece, but I don’t know if it would still look as soft with the harsh line of the belted waist. I think what makes it so soft and elegant is the simplicity of that dress…My vote is for the first bolero.
Post # 4
I think you should add the bolero from the picture. It is more closely fitted to the body than the short sleeve bolero which I prefer and I think would actually blend better with your dress. You are ordering matching fabric, so matching the fabric isn’t the issue. It will look lovely once you are all done up with your veil on and then are you taking it off for the reception? Best of both world.
Post # 5
I feel like the bolero is the easier option, but I love the lace sleeves! They look complete with the dress, rather than a ‘oh crap, I need to cover up’ addition.
Post # 6
@FutureMrsRabo: I think that jacket will be gorgeous with your dress! It ends at sort of an empire waist, I’m guessing – which shouldn’t interfere with your blingy belt.
Post # 7
I think the bolero looks great with your dress. I’m going to have to do the same thing with my dress because my church is strict as well, but I plan on taking off the bolero/jacket for the reception. Good luck with your decision!
Post # 8
I like the pronovias top, I am unsure how it will look with the belt tho. I say go safe and purchase something you can try on to buy. I would have to waste the money and end up not liking it.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the feedback ladies, although it looks like the bees are split on this one. I defintely would hate to waste the money having something custom made, but I could at least justify the cost because I love the look (ha, well assuming it looks nice.) I’ve tried on a handful of boleros, but most aren’t my size (or completely clash with my dress) so its really hard to get an idea of how they will look if they fit properly. Regardless, none of them have really wow’d me or made me feel excited and I hate the thought of spending $300 for the one pictured in the boutique to just settle for something that will work.
I’m almost thinking I just have the custom jacket made and hope that I love it as much as the pic and if it doesn’t work out, I’ll go ahead and start looking for something online asap that is relatively inexpensive. And of course, yank it off as soon as I step out of the church 🙂
I swear none of my decisions have been easy. This is such a stressful process!
Post # 10
Generally I like hte look of the second lace option as it’s close to what I had, but I’m not a fan of it tucked into the top of the dress. I prefer it to be overtop of the bodice… however with your dress that won’t really work b/c of the belt (unless the belt can go overtop of the lace overlay) and the dropped waist. However if you are ok with the tucked in the top look, then go for it!
Post # 11
That’s so annoying that some churches are strict and others are not. My Catholic church is letting me wear a strapless dress. Maybe it depends on area too?
Post # 12
That is the loveliest top I have ever seen on a bride!! So elegant
Post # 13
I would just go with the bolero you are wearing in the first pic and get it in the same colour as your dress.