Post # 1
I’d love some opinions here on what I can do with my ring. And please, don’t call me shallow or ungrateful. My husband is fine with the upgrade, and we can afford it.
So hubby and I got engaged late January, married about 6 weeks ago. When we were talking about getting engaged, I went to the jewelry store and picked out a few settings I liked, and he did the rest, choosing his favorite and the stone. the Engagement Ring is the middle part, and the wedding band(s) are the 2 thin ones with diamonds on the side. I wanted 2 instead of 1 as I thought it looked better. Center stone is 1.023 CT, bands are .5 CT each, and accents are .5, so all together it’s about 2.5 TCW. Ring size is 6.
I’ll be honest, ever since I got it, I just wasn’t…thrilled. I really wanted a bigger center stone, something with a little bling. My ring just looks average to me. I finally talked to hubby about it and he was a little upset at first but then agreed that since I’m the one wearing it I should be happy with it and gave me permission to go to the jewelry store to see what can be done. No specific price range to stay under, just told me to see what I want costs. But he did say he hoped it didn’t cost more than $5-7k-ish to upgrade.
So I’m going in next week. I’m unsure what to do…Should I go straight to a 1.75-2 CT center stone which is what I wanted in the first place? Look at seeing if a halo could be added? See if the ring can be made into a 3 stone? I even thought about returning the diamond and getting something like a moissy if I wasw thinking of a bigger stone, though hubby wouldnt’ be thrilled if I did that.
What do you think based on the pics? Pay no attention to the hands, I took the pic right before a mani appt!
Thanks for input!
Post # 3
If this is what you truly want, upgrade the center stone size only since that is what you say just doesn’t look right. I think it would be inconsiderate to change the setting, or type of stone, because your husband went through a lot of time and emotion choosing the ring for you.
Especially since he already initially expressed some discontent with changing the ring, I wouldn’t change too much. Upgrading is one thing, but totally changing the ring is another.
Post # 4
The center diamond does look a little lost in the setting because it is so wide. If he’s fine with the upgrade then I would do it because once you start spending money on houses and kids, it will be much harder to do so.
I am guessing, however, that it’s going to cost a LOT more than $5-7K to go from a 1ct to a 1.75ct diamond.
Post # 5
@anghp: Yes, I see what you’re saying. He did put his time into picking out the ring. Though I would say it wasn’t a lot of time and emotion…I told him what store I liked, they had my favs on fine. and he and his best friend went one day after the gym. But that said, he did make an effort to pick out his favorite amongst my choices and decide he liked a princess cut more than the other styles, so it did have both of us in it. He’s just not a design/decorating person. 🙂 And you’re right, I shouldn’t change the type of stone. I actually initially really wanted a sapphire but he wouldn’t hear of anything but a diamond.
Overall Id on’t think he cares *that* much if I change the ring, he was just a bit upset because he really wanted me to like it, but understood that I had something slightly different in mind. After all, he chose out his ring, which was different than the one I liked best.
Post # 6
Just getting a thinner band in the setting will make your diamond look a lot bigger. It’s really wide and that may be why you don’t feel like it looks super blingy. That is where I would start before looking at significantly bigger diamonds.
Post # 7
Well, how much more it costs depends on the quality of the cut, clarity and color. Where did your husband buy the diamond? Do they have an upgrade policy? If so, you’ll probably be able to come in under $7,000 without having to sacrifice quality when changing the stone, but if not, it may be difficult to find an upgrade. I think your best option might be to add a halo and upgrade your stone to what the remainder of the budget can afford.
Post # 8
@Lt.Columbo: This. That setting is very wide, and a thinner band might make a huge difference visually. Try that before you decide to change your diamond.
Post # 9
I think the comments about how the diamond looks lost with the wide band is totally right on, and I didn’t think of it like that!
Really, he is going to let me get whatever I want. I think he just mentioned the price he did because of how much the ring already cost.
I told him I’d be open to seeing if we could get a biggst diamond some is trying to sell and put it in the ring, just to be cost effective but he was not a fan – would rather I do a straight upgrade at the store.
Post # 10
i agree with PP, change the setting and itll totally make your ring stand out more, also a halo setting with make the 1ct look waay bigger, i love halos hehe i have one so im biased. BUT if you can afford it get a bigger center stone. i went from a .75ct to a 1.25 then to a 1.50ct set in a halo. and im totally happy with it.
Its your ring and you have to love it!
Post # 11
Agree with PPs, the center diamond is gorgeous but lost in the setting. A different setting will definitely make it pop out =)
Post # 12
I am with you on how the band makes the centre stone look smaller. My set is super simular to the OPs. IMO you should use the same set and just upgrade the centre stone
Post # 13
do they have an upgrade policy at the store?
Post # 14
I’d find out out what the upgrade policy is. For example, at Jared the new stone must be at least twice the value of the old one.
Post # 15
I only have to spend $1 more to upgrade. So, no problem there!
Post # 16
Maybe in your case keeping the diamond is the route to go so hubby will be happy also… I also think a different setting will make your princess stand out more, adding a halo will be a completely different look but will look awesome! Your current set is stunning but if you’re not happy with and it doesn’t feel like you then I say change it. Sometimes peoples aesthetics just change.