- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Hello Bees! I have a question and need some major help. Any advice would be VERY appreciated!
First let me say this, my family is a very tight family. We have always been very close, especially us three sisters. Second, our family LIVES for eachothers weddings! We love them and all pitch in to prepare for them, and talk about them years after. Crazy, I know! : )
Well, my older sister and I have both had our turn, and now my younger sister is engaged!! YAY! : ) We’ve begun all the wedding planning and have had a blast doing it. My older sister lives in Texas, but still likes to help as much as she can! My little sister has come up with the date, bought the bridesmaids dresses & her dress, booked the venues, etc. etc. (it’s in June).
Ok.. moving on.. my older sister is pregnant! Again, YAY! She and her husband had been trying for almost 4 years, and have had 3 miscarriages. It’s been a long 4 years of total heartbreak, as they were very actively trying. Her and her husband finally came to decide that it probably wasn’t going to happen and started looking into adoption. Well, while looking into adoption.. surprise, she’s pregnant! : )
Ok, fast forward to why I’m posting this… it dawned on my older sister yesterday that she may not be allowed to travel in June, since the baby is due in July. She called her doctor to find out, and the doctor said ABSOLUTELY not (my sister is high risk). So, many, many, many tears later, we’ve realized that my sister will not be able to come to my younger sisters wedding. My whole family is devastated, but also understand.
So, here’s my question. My sister was supposed to be a bridesmaid in the wedding, however, will not be able to anymore. My younger sister & her FI have already asked all their bridesmaid & groomsmen, which means their numbers are now uneven. We are having a hard time coming up with a solution for this. They can’t really ask one groomsmen to not be in it, or ask another girl to be in it, since it would be offensive to others. Do they just keep it uneven? And if so, how do you work around that? We’ve never seen that done before.
It was a pretty emotional day yesterday, so we haven’t totally figured everything out. My little sister could maybe move her day, but we haven’t really looked into it yet, and I kind of feel bad bringing that up to her (none of this is her fault, she shouldn’t feel like she has to do that.. right?).
Anyway, any ideas would be appreciated! Sorry this is so long.. felt like I had to explain a lot to make sense of it. Thanks so much Bees! : )