Post # 1
For starters the church I grew up attending will be in the middle of a remodel at the time we are getting married. I had then decided to go with having the wedding at the cathedral in the area (St. Mary’s Cathedral in Portland, Oregon)http://theoleksandr.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/Emily-and-Aaron-Wedding8.jpg because of how beautiful it is inside and for pictures outside, however I called last week and they are booked for afternoon weddings for next June, July and August 🙁 However, they still have openings for some dates for an 11am ceremony start time.
I am so crushed since we are planning a black tie wedding at the Governor Hotelhttp://www.anikoproductionsblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/portland-governor-ballroom-event-photos1.jpg and I dont know what to do with the huge gap. I already feel awful about having to get ready so early and feeling rushed and I doubt that our guests will or even should attend the church ceremony in black tie. Most of all I’m worried about the guesets! that is a HUGE gap. what can/should we do for them if we keep the gap? is it worth it for a beautiful space?? Only one other church comes to mind that is in the area and most likely available in the afternoon, but I’m not sure if I like the way it looks ( St. Patrick’s catholic church).http://www.vallsphotographic.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/sneak.jpg
Do you think I should pick the cathedral (if so, please give me suggestions for the gap time)?
or Should I pick St. Patrick’s out of convenience (do you think it would really change the feel of the event or would having a gap in a gorgeous cathedral not be worth it)?
Post # 3
I just want to ask, the photo of St Mary’s cathedral in Portland does look lovely, but there are A LOT of people in that hall. Are you having that many guests?
St Patricks looks a little smaller and quite intimate. I love small (ish) intimate weddings and think the ambience would be lovely in there. St Mary’s may not be quite as wonderful if its only half full..? Just a thought. I really like the look of St Patricks and it seems like a really ‘homely’ church. Your reception is Glam enough and will truly WOW your guests, regardless of where your ceremony is held. I’d avoid the long gap, especially if your guests are drinkers 😉
Post # 4
@KellyLouise- I’m not quite sure how many guests there are in that picture, but we’re inviting almost 300 people to the wedding. St. Patricks is pretty long and narrow and can accomodate up to 275 so it would be a tight fit
Post # 5
Personally, I think that St. Patricks is beautiful as well! I wouldn’t want such a huge gap and I wouldn’t want my guest to have to wait for so long before the celebration continues.
Post # 6
I can sympathize COMPLETELY! We ended up waiting an extra 6 months for our wedding date, for an afternoon time, because we didn’t want to get married at 11am!
I did a TON of research on what to do during a gap time, and how to make an early wedding work for us. In the end, it just wasn’t going to work.
Like you, I had the vision of having an evening wedding….if you start your wedding reception at noon, people will be gone by 4pm or 5pm! Not exactly what I had envisioned for my big day.
Also – during my research, it seems that a long gap annoys everyone. And I can’t exactly say I blame them. No one wants to be forced to kill time for hours, especially if they’re from out of town and can’t just pop home. And you risk losing those who DO pop home and end up not wanting to leave the house again…or those who go to the bar to kill time! You don’t want anyone showing up drunk! Anyway, those are all the factors I took into consideration when making my decision.
So. My advice to you is to go with St. Patrick’s church. It’s still gorgeous!! Honestly – really, really beautiful! Then you can have the best of both worlds, and not compromise on your “vision” for your reception – something that you will most likely regret.
Post # 7
Don’t get married at 11am, unless the reception will be right after, like at 12:30 or 1:30 (with cocktail hour). If you want an evening wedding, then the 4pm timeslot at the other church is the way to go.