(Closed) Need help, please! (and an update on bad news, good people, and evil doctor)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just read your original post and this one. So sorry you are going through all this, I can’t even imagine what all this is like. Kudos to you for keeping it together and keeping a positive outlook 🙂 I hope only the best for your dad, your wedding, and your entire family. I truely believe that ones support system can keep them uplifted…. so cheers to your family and the wonderful people around you!

Now onto the backyard wedding. I agree, picnic tables, costco food, maybe some cheap places in town that do trays of food for relatively cheap? Dollar tree has paper light up lanterns for a dollar…as far as other decorations maybe just some candles and table cloths. Ask around friends, neighbors, see who has portable speakers for an ipod so you dont have to buy any. I would do coolers with ice and sodas, waters, and beers. Use plastic wear for easy cleanup. I’m sure your dad feels “bad” but will be honored to know his daughter would give up her wedding just so she could be with her family when it really counts. And my last piece of advice, let friends and other family members carry you thru this rough time. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, and dont feel bad accepting it when someone offers. Others around you I’m sure want to help you. And as far as inviting other people, I say do it! Just make it a casual verbal announcement, they obviously know the circumstances, make it sound like the more the merrier.

Hope this helps a little if at all. Good luck! <3

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m really sorry you and your family are going through this but it’s sounds like you are surrounded by some great people and you are handling this really well. I have to say that I think you are being so strong and positive right now. You’re amazing! 

Now onto the help that you deserve!

I completely agree with FutureMrsSmith, lean on your close friends and family to help you out.This could be a great opportunity to lift everyone’s spirits and take their minds off things for awhile.

Costco sounds like a great option for food and drinks. Also I know that places like Dollar Tree and Target sometimes have some pretty nice decorations. I love the idea of hanging lanterns, or twinkle lights around the backyard to creat a romantic but simple setting. Also, you can purchase tons of votive candles from Costco for really cheap. Maybe you can line your driveway or porch with them?

As for music, I think the ipod option is probably the best. Do you have any friends that are really into music? Instead of a gift, maybe they can create you a playlist?

I love the more the merrier idea. Invite who you want and don’t stress too much about the guest list, like FutureMrs said they know the circumstances.

Good luck with everything!

 

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Also, I don’ know if you have an ikea around you but here are some cute and cheap candle decorations.

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/50097995 — tea lights for decorations

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/20122996 — centerpieces on the tables

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/60173955 — if you want a little color for the tea light options

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10122987 — lanterns

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/40157602&nbsp; — lanterns, might be a little $$ to purchase too many

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10151036 — cute photo decortation

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hmm it looks like weddingbee had to check my additional post b/c I posted a bunch of links for you about candles and decorations.

Normally, I would just give it time BUT since you are on such a tight schedule I just wanted to say I looked at Ikea and they have tons of cheap candles and lanterns there. Type in decorations in the search window on the Ikea website and it will bring up a bunch of different CHEAP ideas.(the candles etc. start on the bottom of page 10)

Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What a wonderful and heartbreaking story!  First of all – best of luck to your dad and the family in such a tough time.  You sound like you have such a strong, supportive family and that alone is such a blessing!

I am so happy you were able to make everything work out and that you had (TWO) beautiful weddings!  Congrats on your marriage and I wish you nothing but the best!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Congrats on both of your successful weddings!  Most of us can hardly pull off 1, let alone 2!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@WeeBirdy: Your wedding(s) sound amazing!  I’m very sorry about your Dad and hope that he is feeling better.  But I’d love to see photos of your two weddings!  It sounds like you were able to remember the actual reasons behind all of the hoopla. 

Congratulations on getting married, and handling a difficult situation with grace (with your husband)! 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Wow, what a wonderful story.  So glad your dad is doing well and so many people, especially both sides of your family, got to share in your wedding(s).  I’m sure this is not at all what you expected but what a good way to start a marriage with so much love.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aw I’m so glad everything worked out! I know it wasn’t the wedding you expected but it sounds like an amazing wedding and it’s wonderful that your dad was able to be there.

Wishing you many more happy vow renewals!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

How wonderful!  Congratulations!!  Congratulations!!  🙂 🙂 lol

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

What a wonderful story in the midst of such tough times.  Thanks for sharing.  It was really uplifting.

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